Entertainment Movies Salma Hayek Reveals Secret to 12-Year Marriage: 'We've Never Said Anything Nasty to Each Other' Actress Salma Hayek appears virtually on Wednesday's Red Table Talk and discusses her 12-year marriage to husband François-Henri Pinault By Jen Juneau Jen Juneau Twitter Jen Juneau is a digital news writer for PEOPLE. A '90s teen and horror film connoisseur, she started at the brand in 2016, after a decade of working as a technical writer and then moonlighting as a journalist beginning in 2013. Originally from New Orleans, Jen grew up both in NOLA and Florida and eventually attended the University of Central Florida in Orlando (still her home base!), where she earned a bachelor's in English/technical communication, with a minor in magazine journalism. People Editorial Guidelines Published on June 23, 2021 12:05 PM Share Tweet Pin Email Salma Hayek and François-Henri Pinault. Photo: Albert L. Ortega/Getty Images Salma Hayek's simple marriage secret? Kindness! The actress appeared virtually on Wednesday's episode of Jada Pinkett Smith's Facebook Watch series Red Table Talk and discussed her 12-year marriage to husband François-Henri Pinault, revealing that their strategy is always to focus on problems as opposed to pointing fingers. "When there is conflict, we put all the energy in solving the problem — never finding who to blame or, 'You should have done this or that.' No," said Hayek, 54. "All our energy goes into, 'How do we solve this?' " Because of their approach, "We've never said anything nasty to each other," she added. "No resentment." Never miss a story — sign up for PEOPLE's free daily newsletter to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from juicy celebrity news to compelling human-interest stories. RTT: Salma Hayek Hilariously Recalls Losing Matrix Role After Failing "Physical Test": "I'm Lazy" Hayek married Pinault on Valentine's Day in 2009 inside the City Hall of the Sixth Arrondissement in central Paris. The couple share 13-year-old daughter Valentina, while Pinault is also a father to three children from previous relationships. Last month, the Eternals actress shared a loved-up snapshot of herself and Pinault to mark her longtime beau's 59th birthday. The photo depicted Hayek giving her husband — who is the CEO of luxury fashion group Kering and president of the holding company Groupe Artémis — a smooch from behind as he smiled and held her hand. "Joyeux anniversaire mon Amour - Feliz cumpleaños mi Amor - Happy birthday my love ♥️," wrote Hayek in her Instagram post, expressing the sentiment in French, Spanish and English. RELATED VIDEO: Salma Hayek Slams Claims She Married Husband for His Money Hayek talked about parenting on Red Table Talk, too, sharing that Valentina speaks Spanish, English and French — and "understands a lot of Italian [and] Portuguese." Hayek is also trying to get her to pick up on Chinese. As for what it's like to parent a teenager, "I've been learning to get out of the way … to let them be who they are," Hayek said. "To give them the chance to take the chance to be unique. And that is not easy. And when you give them a voice, the first person they use it [on] is you." "Empowerment," the Hitman's Wife's Bodyguard actress added, "also comes with understanding boundaries. Good mothers are always gonna wonder, 'Am I doing the right thing? Did I do the right thing?' Always, because we care. And because we want to be our very best for you." "Sometimes when your children go away — 'cause I have stepchildren that are older — there's such a void that you really don't know who you are anymore," Hayek continued. "There is a sense not only of loss — it's like, 'Who am I without them? What is my family now?' " Catch Hayek's full episode of Red Table Talk on Facebook Watch.