Entertainment Movies Jada Pinkett Smith Reveals How She Keeps Her Marriage Strong — and What Wasn't Working The 47-year-old actress opened up about how she and husband Will Smith moved past their childhood traumas to have a healthy relationship By Alexia Fernández Published on February 21, 2019 03:11 PM Share Tweet Pin Email https://www.facebook.com/plugins/video.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fredtabletalk%2Fvideos%2F1170805143090441%2F&show_text=0&width=560 Jada Pinkett Smith is revealing how she and husband Will Smith kept their relationship strong. In a PEOPLE exclusive clip from an upcoming episode of Facebook Watch’s Red Table Talk, the 47-year-old actress was joined by Jane the Virgin‘s Justin Baldoni to discuss what men think about love. “Personally, in my journey, what I had to realize was that I had to find all the peace, love and joy within my heart in order to bring it to the table to share,” the mother of two said. “Will had to go away and find the peace, love and joy in his heart to share.” “So that’s what we share instead of our traumas from our childhood, all of our insecurities and fears that we usually come to the table within our relationships to have our partners fix,” she continued. As an example of what didn’t work in their relationship, Pinkett Smith described the mentality that proved to be unhealthy. Jason Merritt/Getty “I need you to be this thing for me so that I don’t feel a certain way. And what I’m going to do is put so much pressure on you — and find really sneaky ways — to manipulate you so that you will always be the thing I need you to be so that I’m happy,” she said, as Baldoni said, “Yes.” Will Smith Says He and Jada Pinkett ‘Broke Up Within Our Marriage and Got Back Together Again’ The Bad Boys for Life actor, 50, was previously on Red Table Talk in October, where he also opened up about how he healed his marriage to the actress after a trying period. “I was devastated even worse than a divorce. We broke up within our marriage and got back together again,” Smith said. “We had to rebuild with new rules and something way, completely different.” Red Table Talk airs Mondays on Facebook.