Jada Pinkett Smith is reminding her followers that the most important kind of love is self-love

By Maria Pasquini
February 14, 2019 01:53 PM

Regardless of your relationship status, it’s important to be your own valentine.

In honor of Valentine’s Day, Jada Pinkett Smith penned a lengthy post explaining how even though it can be difficult to learn to love yourself, without self-love, you’ll never be able to “build love for someone else.”

The journey to self love can be a brutal process. Especially in those moments when we must deny ourselves that which is familiar…but harmful. Like releasing victimhood and embracing personal power,” the 47-year-old Red Table Talk host wrote on Instagram, alongside a video of what appears to be a “beating” heart cake.

“Without personal power/self love, there is no foundation to build love for someone else because it’s the power needed to dissolve the ego which is our greatest obstacle to truly loving through its brutal and unkind nature,” she added.

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Continuing, she wrote, “The ego will never fail to strangle the love out of one’s heart if we allow it to take center stage in our relationships. Transferring our trust to our hearts from our egos is a painful process in learning HOW to love. BUT… through it all… when we finally get to the place where we can give and receive love in its most pure state… ego free… it is only ever… beauty.”

During the video, the actress discusses the “elusive” definition of love in a voice-over.

“The definition of love is elusive. Love wears many faces. The process of loving is not always kind and gentle, but the results are always beautiful. Happy love day, everyone”

Pinkett Smith, who has been open about her own mental health struggles, has previously spoken about her practice of “deep self-love.”

“In the years I spent towards my healing, many moons ago, I realized the mind and heart can be extremely delicate without the foundation of a formidable spirit,” she wrote on Instagram last summer, following the deaths of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain.

“What I eat, what I watch on TV, what music I listen to, how I care for my body, my spiritual practice, what people I surround myself with, the amount of stress I allow and so on… either contribute to or deteriorate my mental health,” she added. “Mental health is a daily practice for me. It’s a practice of deep self-love.”

Her Facebook Watch show Red Table Talk airs Mondays.