People.com Entertainment Movies Jada Pinkett Smith Gets Candid About 'Deterioration' of 'Fantasies' in Her Marriage to Will Smith Jada Pinkett Smith opened up about her marriage on Monday's Red Table Talk By Helen Murphy Published on February 26, 2019 10:05 AM Share Tweet Pin Email Jada Pinkett Smith is getting candid about her 21-year marriage to Will Smith. On Monday’s episode of Red Table Talk, Smith, 47, spoke about the reality versus expectations of marriage with her guests, rapper Wale and Jane the Virgin star Justin Baldoni. (Wale is single and looking for a longterm relationship, while Baldoni is married with two children.) “Let me tell you, nobody talks about the sacrifice, the deterioration and the dissolving of fantasies,” she told Wale, 34, about her more than two-decades-long marriage. “You, right now, have in your mind your perfect woman. And when you find that woman, she’s gonna be a goddess to you. We fall in love with the goddess, or the god, within that person, and then when we actually meet the human being, then we gotta learn how to love that one.” “The reason why it is so important to me to be able to stick it out is to really get to the true meaning of love, in my opinion, it is unconditional,” she continued. “It has to be, because we are all too flawed. No matter how much work we do! It never ends.” “It never ends,” Baldoni, 35, added. “It ends the day that we leave this planet.” Trae Patton/NBC/Getty Jada Pinkett Smith Reveals How She Keeps Her Marriage Strong — and What Wasn’t Working “There have been several occasions where you just had enough and you want to leave and I just couldn’t. Or Will just couldn’t,” the actress said during the episode. “Because we knew this was what was meant to be, this partnership.” “I grew up in a single parent home, I didn’t see all the time healthy relationships,” Smith added. “I came to the table with a lot of pain and a lot of brokenness. And most of all, I came to the table with some hardcore daddy issues. It made me really angry towards men. I had very high expectations.” “But I had to change that,” she added. “I can’t ask somebody to be for me what I am not willing to be for them.” Amanda Edwards/WireImage Smith added that the journey to love and acceptance can take a long time. “At the end of the day, to know that you have another person that can love you for all that you are … Will has loved me through the worst of myself,” she added. “And I have done the same. When somebody can love you in that way, it makes your faith in the world come together. I am 47 years old and I want you to know, that this is probably the first year of my life that I can say, ‘I am happy,’ because that’s how long the journey has been.” Jada Pinkett Smith and One Day at a Time’s Justina Machado Discuss White Privilege on Red Table Talk Will, 50, was previously on Red Table Talk in October 2018, where he also opened up about how he healed his marriage to the actress after a trying period. “I was devastated even worse than a divorce. We broke up within our marriage and got back together again,” he said. “We had to rebuild with new rules and something way, completely different.” Red Table Talk airs Mondays on Facebook Watch.