Emma Watson on Why She Denies the Idea That Relationships Should Be ‘Easy’: ‘It’s Bull----’
The Harry Potter actress said nontraditional couples tend to have better communication since they don't assume stereotypes
Emma Watson is speaking out on the conventional couple’s mold.
In a new conversation with author Valerie Hudson for Teen Vogue, the Little Women actress, 29, discusses the concept of marriage and how traditional relationship dynamics can constrain healthy connections. Watson also shot down the notion that strong relationships are effortless.
“The idea that relationships are supposed to be easy and it’s all supposed to be implicitly understood, and you’re just meant to get each other, it’s bulls—! It’s impossible!” she said.
Watson pointed to nontraditional couples as having better communication practices, as both parties have to be open about what their relationship will look like since it doesn’t fall into a preconceived template.
“I feel that relationships that don’t necessarily follow traditional models do require more communication and consent,” she said. “It requires an actual conversation and agreement about the delegation of tasks and labor and responsibilities that maybe you don’t feel that you need to have or should have if you follow those traditional stereotypes.”
“They agree [on] things between them as opposed to [accepting] certain sets of assumptions and expectations that are made,” said Watson.
“I’ve also kind of become slightly fascinated by kink culture because they are the best communicators ever,” she continued. “They know all about consent. They [understand] that stuff because they really have to get it — but we could all use those models; they’re actually really helpful models.”
In the Teen Vogue conversation, the actress also elaborated on the dating term she touted that made headlines in November: “self-partnered.” She told British Vogue at the time that it was her way of verbalizing that she’s content with being single.
“For me it wasn’t so much about coining a word; it was more that I needed to create a definition for something that I didn’t feel there was language for,” said Watson. “And it was really interesting because it really riled some people up!”
She added: “It was less for me about the word but more about what it meant — just this idea that we need to reclaim language and space in order to express ourselves because sometimes it’s really not there.”
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