Transgender Man Opens Up About Being Pregnant, Giving Birth: 'I Had to Deal with a Lot of Stigma'
Wyley Simpson, of San Antonio, Texas, had already started his transition from female to male when he received shocking news last February: he was pregnant.
He was “nervous” and “scared” over the news as he and his fiancé, Stephan Gaeth, also 28, were not prepared to become parents. The couple considered placing the child for adoption, but ultimately chose to grow their family.
Simpson decided he would endure any public ridicule during the pregnancy because “it would be worth it” in the end.
“It’s not every day that someone sees a pregnant man walking down the road, so we received a fair about of abuse,” Simpson said. “I would be told that I’ll never be a man, ‘Men don’t carry babies.’ And everyone called me ‘it.’ ”
Simpson said the ridicule wasn’t the only hardship of the pregnancy. He also struggled internally to cope with the pregnancy as he put his transition on hold.
“I was already worried as this was my first pregnancy, but I was also nervous because I had to deal with a lot of stigma behind me being a pregnant man,” he said. “But alongside receiving rude comments from other people, the pregnancy took a lot for me emotionally.”
Despite all the emotional and physical difficulties of the pregnancy, Simpson said it was all worth it to become a father.
“Having gone through the transitioning process since I was 21 years old, having a physical baby bump was something so feminine that messed with my head,” he said. “But it was all worth it to have Rowan and to become a father.”
Rowan was born via C-section on Sept. 5, 2018 weighing 7 lbs and 5 oz. Now, Simpson and Gaeth are enjoying fatherhood.
“Rowan is amazing, he made all of the mental and physical pain completely worth it,” Simpson said. “Once my physical bump had disappeared and I was able to take my hormones again, I felt good about everything. Myself and Stephan suddenly turned into a gay couple with a baby, as opposed to me being a pregnant man.”
“And Rowan is amazing, he made all of the mental and physical pain completely worth it,” he continued. “Now myself and Stephan are just reveling in fatherhood and can’t wait to continue our journey as a family.”
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Although the couple is enjoying life with little Rowan, Simpson said they don’t plan to have any more children because he is hoping to fully transition in the future.
“It was a great feeling to be able to carry Rowan, feeling him kick and going to baby scans, but for me as a person, it isn’t something I can continue to do,” Simpson said. “I don’t see myself as any less of a man because of what happened, but I just do not identify in such a feminine way as to be pregnant – so it won’t be happening again.”
He added: “I am glad that I got to go through something as amazing and natural as birthing my own child, it’s definitely made mine and Rowan’s bond so much closer.”