The Willis Clan is reeling in the wake of family patriarch Toby Willis’ child rape charges.
The Tennessee Bureau of Investigations began investigating Toby, 46, on Aug. 29, and discovered that he allegedly had a sexual encounter with an underage girl between the ages of 3 and 13 in Nashville about 12 years ago. He was arrested on Sep. 9.
A source close to the situation tells PEOPLE Toby’s wife and 12 children are leaning on each other for support.
“They are truly hurting, and trying to figure out how to carry on with their lives,” says the insider.
Of Toby’s wife Brenda, the source says she is “a loving, sweet, generous, warm-hearted lady that is hurting and confused.”
On the same day of Toby’s arrest, the Christian family band was scheduled to perform at Felix E. Martin Jr. Hall in Greenville, Kentucky. The source, who also attended the performance, says Brenda and the kids handled themselves beautifully and “did an amazing concert.” (The source confirms Toby was not in attendance.)
“These kids and Brenda are absolutely amazing, and I hope that the truth comes out to allow them to continue with their passion of music and performing on stage,” says the source of the former TLC stars. “They were able to perform without missing a beat, and their energy on stage was magical.”
“Brenda and her children are so strong, and their passion for music and for connecting with audiences shined through that evening,” continues the insider, who says the venue was sold out and audience members raved about the performance.
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Toby, who shares eight daughters and four sons ranging in age from 5 to 24 with wife Brenda, appeared in court in Muhlenberg County, Kentucky, on Monday.
Circuit Court Clerk Camron Laycock told PEOPLE Toby did not have an attorney with him.
Laycock confirmed that Toby did not oppose extradition, meaning that the state of Tennessee has up to 60 days to retrieve him from across state lines. (He was not given the opportunity to enter a plea on Monday and isn’t expected to do so until he is formally charged in Tennessee.)
Toby continues to be held in the Muhlenberg County Jail in Kentucky without bond as a fugitive from justice. He will be moved to Cheatham County Jail in his hometown, where he will also be held without bond, according to the TBI statement.
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