"I'm just like anybody else, insecure and scared of looking bad or being criticized," says Lambert
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If Miranda Lambert is “yin,” husband Blake Shelton is definitely her “yang.”

“I’m not sunshine and roses,” Lambert reveals in Marie Claire‘s January cover story. “Blake’s the happiest person on the planet. He pulls me out of my darkness Literally, everything is the best about being married.”

The dark place Lambert, 31, says her husband of three years saves her from is one of deep anxiety.

“I’m always anxious. I will worry myself into oblivion,” she says. “I was trying to make everything regimented, and it caused too much stress. I learned everything doesn’t have to be perfect. That sometimes it’s OK to say, ‘I don’t want to be the boss today. I have PMS. Bother someone else.’ I like things better flawed anyway.”

And while everything doesn’t have to be perfect, Lambert sure is looking her personal best these days. “When you have to walk out there in front of thousands of people, it does feel good to know that your s–’s not jiggling,” she says of her 20-lb. weight loss.

“I’m just like anybody else, insecure and scared of looking bad or being criticized. But everybody’s making this big, giant thing about [my weight loss]. It’s way too much focus on women’s bikini photos, and I hate it. Why do we care? I want women to love themselves whatever they’ve got going on.”