Puerto Rican motivator María Marín is not a fan of New Year’s resolutions. “This year I decided to have no resolutions, because last year I made plans and God laughed,” the host of the YouTube show María Marín Live tells PEOPLE CHICA.
The star, who spent New Year’s Eve at an exclusive Miami party overlooking the ocean with fireworks, is referring to her battle with cancer last year. “I don’t think it’s good to have a long list of resolutions because you set yourself up for failure trying to handle too many things at once,” she says, adding: “It’s better to make just one important resolution and bring it to fruition.”
Now cancer-free, she says she’s learned to live in the moment and not catastrophize. “I look at life differently. I don’t sweat the small stuff. I’ve learned that nothing is a big deal. The only big deal in life is to lose your health.”
Maintaining a positive attitude, she says, is also a game changer: “Every morning when I open my eyes, I look outside and whether is rainy or sunny, I sing a famous line from The Rascals’ hit song ‘It’s a Beautiful Morning,'” she explains. “Always remember that everything in life is temporary. Sometimes we go through a bad season but it will pass. Just like winter, it doesn’t matter how bitterly cold it is, sooner or later, spring arrives.”
Marín, who will publish a new book this year — her fifth — on her battle with breast cancer says healthy self-esteem is also crucial. “Confidence is the key to success. Everyone wants to feel more confident so that they can make an important decision or make a change. The problem is that if you wait until the confidence comes, you will wait forever.” She advises taking the plunge, even when — especially when — you aren’t feeling plucky: “The key is to take the step even if you feel insecure. If you do, your level of self-confidence will automatically increase.”
A big believer in trusting your instincts when weighing whether to shake things up for the new year, Marín says: “It’s a good time to follow your gut. People stay too long in bad relationships because of the fear to be alone, not realizing that being in a bad relationship is the same as being alone. If you had happiness with the wrong person,” she emphasizes, “just imagine how happy you would be with the right partner.”