24 Women Share the Real Reasons They're On Tinder

Yes, some are there for dick pics

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Since its debut in the app store, Tinder has developed quite the reputation mostly as a breeding ground for one-night stands.

But it’s not all hook-up seekers: The women of Tinder took to Reddit to share why they’re really on the app.

1. “I’m looking for someone cool to hang out with and see if it turns into something. I’ve actually hung out with like four guys, two were duds, and two are amazing. I went on one date with each and have second dates set up with each. I have no idea what to do if both of the second dates go well ”

2. “I am looking for a normal guy to date and see if it can turn into something. Maybe he won’t work, maybe he will become my best friend, only a regular sex friend, a boyfriend for a while, my future husband… who knows?”

3. “For me it was a great experience. I was wary at first but after a bunch of my friends met their partners through it, I decided to try it out. I wanted sex but at the same time if I found a guy with whom I clicked and wanted a relationship, that was just icing on the cake. I liked the security of the app in that I didn’t get unsolicited messages and if I didn’t feel like a match was going to go further than a cursory exchange of pleasantries I could unmatch and not talk to them again. It also forced me out of my comfort zone and also gave me better small-talk skills, something at which I used to fail. I wound up meeting a wonderful guy and am really happy – all thanks to Tinder.”

4. “A friend with benefits.”

5. “Someone to go down on me.”


6. “I used Tinder during my summer abroad to practice my French with locals in Paris. I never met up with any of them though, because that’s how people get Taken.”

7. “My friends and I decided we wanted to make a dick-a-day calendar for a friend who is getting married so we trolled it for dick pics. I ended up with a boyfriend instead. My boyfriend was not one of the ones who sent me a dick pic.”

8. “A mutually invested individual that may or may not evolve into something interesting. I feel like the majority of the people who quip about it being an app strictly for sex are basing it entirely on anecdotal circle jerk nonsense and have never actually used it.”

9. “Sex. Someone to smoke weed with.”

10. “Anything, really. Which sounds super open-ended, but I started out looking for a relationship, realized 2 days in that it probably wasn’t going to happen, and broadened my horizons. I just go along with whatever happens, be it friendship or hookups or whatever.”


11. “I was on a business trip in Singapore for three weeks. A few days before I had to leave I signed up for Tinder because I wanted to meet some new people who could show me around the city. It worked out pretty well. I went out and explored the city twice with a nice, good looking guy before I left the country.”

12. “Ideally, I’d like a boyfriend. If I happen to meet somebody with whom I clicked well with sexually but doesn’t have long term potential, I’d be ok with a friends with benefits situation. But that’s not what I’m looking for.”

13. “I downloaded the app just to try it out and had zero expectations. After a few boring matches, I matched with this really cute guy who seemed to have endless similarities with me. We’ve been dating for over a month now. It’s going pretty well and he is absolutely amazing.”

14. “A guy who actually looks like his pictures and can carry his end of the conversation. Amazing how rare that is.”

15. “Someone to go out for beers, eat pizza, have an interesting conversation, and make out with. Which apparently is asking a lot.”


16. “I actually look for a future boyfriend. I have very specific tastes and it helps me to meet people I wouldn’t have met otherwise.”

17. “I was looking for people to hang out with, ended up with a husband.”

18. “Someone who doesn’t consider a dick picture a legitimate form of greeting, I’d imagine.”

19. “Sex. I am looking for you to come and have sex with me. I don’t want your number. I won’t remember your name. I just want to get laid without all the dating bullshit.”

20. “Initially, just a confidence boost. Ended up meeting and dating a guy who was a huge jerk. We broke up after four months. I got back on Tinder and I met someone else. We recently celebrated our one year anniversary and now live together.”


21. “New people to talk to. I’m socially awkward and a huge dork. I don’t have friends to go out and meet new people so that app works fine for me. Also I get to see a load of really ripped muscle monkeys. It’s a win win.”

22. “An actual engaged conversation– someone who’s not going to use stupid pickup lines or ice breakers just to use them. Saying hi and getting to know the person is so much better than awkwardly fending off sexual innuendo or talking about what letter in the alphabet I am.”

23. “To secretly judge people and take screenshots of weirdos and send them to my friends.”

24. “Reaffirming my assumptions that humanity, in large, is truly invested in little other than seeking pleasure and validation while having the attention span of an intellectually average dog.”

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