By Maria Yagoda
Updated June 28, 2016 05:35 PM
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There are several reasons that adults – of all ages – have never had sex, from social insecurities to strange luck to a low libido. Here are the reasons 19 people shared on Reddit as to why they’re still virgins whether by choice, or not.

“I’m 23. I like being alone and never tried to go on a date. Somehow that hasn’t translated into an orgy yet, but there’s still time.”

“I’m almost 19 and I have a bunch of reasons, but my three biggest are: I haven’t been in a serious relationship yet, casual sex just isn’t my cup of tea, and if my libido were any lower, I’d be panda.”

“I’m 25. I’m not a virgin by choice. I haven’t had any girlfriends since high school. I’m not very outgoing and find it hard to be attracted to anybody I haven’t known for a while, and by then we’re friends and I don’t want to ruin it.”

“I just turned 26. There have been a bunch of times in my life where I became very close with women, where it seemed like there was mutual attraction, but it reads like a series of unfortunate events. One of my friends believes I might be related to the Starks. Years and years of that kind of ‘bad luck,’ as well as just being an introvert who doesn’t particularly like a lot of the things people do to meet new people, means I’ve basically given up.”

“I’m 35. I’m autistic and schizophrenic, so I’ve decided not to have kids. With the meds I take, I don’t have a sex drive, anyway. I’m happy looking at a beautiful or cute woman, but I stay away. I can’t maintain a relationship, anyway. I can barely talk to human beings.”

“I’m 26 and have bad luck. I consider myself a fairly normal sociable person, but all of my friends are couples so I can never meet single people.”

“I’m ‘up there’ in age. The reason why is because I was so deep in the closet, if you came looking for me, you’d find Christmas presents. I only came out in January. I haven’t found the right guy yet.”

“I’m 27. I never really had a proper boyfriend. I messed around with a guy for a bit in college, but never went all the way with him. That was seven years ago, and now I’m too scared to admit it or meet a guy and tell him that I’m a virgin in case of rejection.”

“I’m 23 and spend more time inside playing video games than going out and meeting people.”

“I’m 28 and female. It was never that important to me, plus I seem to have a low sex drive. But thinking back on it, it’s possible that my environment played a decent role in it, too. I live in a very conservative state (Utah), and while growing up, my social circle was comprised of mainly two contrasting groups. On one hand were the staunch LDS folks who were taught not to have sex until marriage, but they married and had children at young ages (with other staunch LDS folks). In the other group were the non-LDS and the rebelling LDS. Casual sex was much more popular with them. Meanwhile, I never felt like I belonged in either group. To top it all off, I’m an extremely reserved person and slow to trust people.”

“I’m 29. The short story is that I haven’t been trying hard enough and still take rejections way too seriously. The longer story is that I had a couple of injuries as a child (e.g lost half my hand when I was 2), which left me slightly disfigured but entirely screwed me up when it comes to self-image and confidence. This led to a series of sweet (possibly even somewhat reciprocated) crushes turn into vile acts of self-hurt, leaving me drained each time, and unwilling to try again. I’d just get sucked into work and lock myself from the world.”

“I’m 28, and I only really fell in love for the first time around 25. Before I really did want a relationship, but I never met anyone I would want to be in a relationship with. And since than I haven’t met anyone I like that likes me too. I only just had my first kiss a few weeks ago….but it was nice. I was super drunk, and I think he was too, and I must admit I got the hell away from him after that because I was so embarrassed. But we are meeting up soon, sober this time. I don’t know how I feel about him yet, but the whole situation showed me things like this do happen when you least expect it.”

“I’m a 21-year-old man, and I’m afraid of physical contact and commitment. My fear of physical contact is greater than my desire to have sex, so trying and getting one night stands or a prostitute or anything like that won’t happen in the near future, and a relationship would be too much for me to handle.”

“I’m a 21-year-old female, and I’m a little bit afraid of men. I’m convinced that I’m a very bad judge of character, and I could only attract an abusive guy. To semi-prove this, I went on a VERY sketchy date about a year ago that left me very spooked – I didn’t get assaulted, but I very easily could have been – and I have no desire to try again.”

“I’m a 36-year-old male, and I’ve never felt sexy in any way. For some reason, I have a tendency to bring the worst out of people, and that, combined to a sensitive nature doesn’t really work. You know, there’s no point giving people more “ammunition” to mock you. If I were to have sex with someone it wouldn’t be long until I’d hear people joke about my looks, dick size, performance, o-face or whatever behind my back.”

“I’m in my mid-30s, male, still a virgin and actually never gone on a date. I believe that this is because I’m both disfigured and disabled. I have tried online dating extensively, especially with special sites for both disfigured and disabled people. Generally I have a great rapport with ladies when I don’t have a picture on my profile. A few times they have agreed to meet me IRL but they didn’t show up. I did try to lose my virginity on my 33rd birthday by hiring a prostitute. It ended up being a police sting and I got arrested. It cost me my job, and I had to move back in with my parents because I couldn’t pay my rent without a job.”

“No one explained to me how to go from knowing someone to having that person want to have sex with you. Even with all the dating and seduction guides out there, there’s always an assumption of knowledge that I just don’t have.”

“I’m a soon-to-be 23 year-old woman. I just wasn’t ready when I was younger. And now that I am, I just haven’t attracted anyone I’m interested in yet.”

“I’m 27. I am socially awkward and don’t look good enough to make up for it. While I don’t look too bad for a woman to be interested in me, I seal the deal with my personality.”

All posts have been taken from Reddit and edited for length and clarity.