Selena Gomez Talks Dating Challenges: 'For a While My Private Life Was the Most Talked About Thing'
Her love life has been the subject of constant global scrutiny since her on-again-off-again relationship with Justin Bieber ended for good in 2015. Now Gomez is unloading about the trials and tribulations of dating while famous for her cover story in September’s issue of Vogue Australia.
“For a while my private life was the most talked about thing,” she says. “Nobody really knows everything and they can only assume. You want to do what you love but all this other stuff overshadows it so it makes it a little harder for people to take me seriously.”
Recently the 24-year-old star has thrown herself into her work. She’s currently in the midst of her world-wide Revival tour, for which she’ll be traveling until December. “I figured it’s just temporary,” she says of the work load. “I feel like that fortunately and unfortunately it’s where my life is at the moment and I have to accept it.”
While she’s open to the possibility of dating, she’s fearful that the resulting media whirlwind would scare people off. “I think people would think it’s kind of dumb [to date me],” Gomez admits. “Nobody would want to throw themselves into that situation where it was so heightened publicly. Like, why would they?”
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While some dudes make moves, it’s usually not welcome. “The guys that do have the confidence to hit on me are not necessarily my type, but they think they are because I’m a pop star, I sing songs, do movies, I like to feel sexy and confident on stage,” she says. “I’d be so stoked with a writer or producer or actor who is low-key, but those kind of guys are terrified of me!”
Gomez appears to be in a reflective mood these days. At the end of July she leveled with her fans mid-concert in Jakarta. Just before performing her hit single “Kill ‘Em with Kindness” to end the show, Gomez said to the crowd, “The next song, before I go home, is a song that’s so important to me, because I get really frustrated. I get stupid sometimes. I say things that I don’t mean, or that come out wrong, just because I care so badly.”
“But the thing is, at the end of the day, no war in anger was ever won,” she continued, quoting her song. “I do know that deep down in my heart, that I have to believe that we can love each other and always be kind, no matter what it takes in us. I believe that we can do that, no matter what.”
Gomez continues her tour this week in Australia.