In a letter published by Rolling Stone on Monday, Mary – mother of Scott’s two children, Noah, 15, and Lucy, 13 – shares her family’s struggle with Scott’s substance abuse, which may have led to his death. (On Friday, police in Bloomington, Minnesota, said cocaine was found on the tour bus where he died, but his cause of death has not been confirmed.)
“December 3rd, 2015 is not the day Scott Weiland died,” writes Mary, who was married to the former Stone Temple Pilots and Velvet Revolver singer from 2000 to 2007. “It is the official day the public will use to mourn him, and it was the last day he could be propped up in front of a microphone for the financial benefit or enjoyment of others.”
According to the magazine, Noah and Lucy contributed to the note.
“The outpouring of condolences and prayers offered to our children, Noah and Lucy, has been overwhelming, appreciated and even comforting,” she writes. “But the truth is, like so many other kids, they lost their father years ago. What they truly lost on December 3rd was hope.”
Although the Weilands “don’t want to downplay Scott’s amazing talent, presence or his ability to light up any stage with brilliant electricity,” they want to “point out that yes, this will happen again – because as a society we almost encourage it.” (Scott himself has been open about his issues with substance abuse, which he chronicled in his 2011 biography, Not Dead & Not For Sale.)
In her frank letter published by the magazine, she criticizes the way people consume videos of artists misbehaving yet continue to buy content created by individuals in need of help. She also focused on Scott’s role as a father.
“Even after Scott and I split up, I spent countless hours trying to calm his paranoid fits, pushing him into the shower and filling him with coffee, just so that I could drop him into the audience at Noah’s talent show, or Lucy’s musical,” Mary, who also opened up about her own struggle with depression, writes in the Rolling Stone story. “Those short encounters were my attempts at giving the kids a feeling of normalcy with their dad.”
Eventually, Scott moved on from the split, meeting photographer Jamie Wachtel in 2011 and marrying her in 2013.
“I won’t say he can rest now, or that he’s in a better place,” she writes in Rolling Stone. “He belongs with his children barbecuing in the backyard and waiting for a Notre Dame game to come on. We are angry and sad about this loss, but we are most devastated that he chose to give up.”
Read her entire letter here.