The Warcraft actress reveals her keys to happiness: "The real goal is to find joy in the right now"

By Kara Warner
Updated June 08, 2016 02:00 PM
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Paula Patton‘s key to happiness is to work at it.

Nearly two years after her headline-making split from ex-husband Robin Thicke, the actress says the key to surviving a high-profile breakup is not paying attention to media coverage of her personal life.

“I don’t think you can control that,” Patton, 40, tells PEOPLE. “You just keep living your life and have faith that everything sorts itself out. Be patient, I’m learning that later in life it’s like, ‘All in due time,’ and the real goal is to find joy in the right now. Focusing on what I have right now is really good and not be concerned with things I can’t control: How other people see me, what they say, it’s wasted energy for me and it’s never done me any good.”

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The actress, who stars in the fantasy epic Warcraft and appears in the Adam Sandler Netflix comedy The Do-Over, admits her Zen-like mindset did not come easily.

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“It’s not that it’s every day, you fight for it,” she says. “I want more joy. I want more happiness. I have a beautiful son [Julian Thicke, 6]. I’ve been lucky to do what I’ve done and to focus on anything else is such a waste. It’s a discipline because trust me we all go there. What I’m striving for is to have more joy, play, have fun with this life. Growing older is a good thing in that way, right? Keep on trucking. You have to find the place where it gets comfortable and easier.”

Warcraft hits theaters June 10.