An inside look at what went wrong in her turbulent relationship with Rick Salomon
They both went into this hopeful with good intentions,” the source tells PEOPLE of their second try at marriage. “They were trying to revive a difficult past year that was full of empty promises.”
In the end, the source says, “it was too hard. They were happy a lot, but things fell apart due to their different philosophies about family and lifestyles. Pamela is still devastated as she tried to hold the family together.”
Anderson, 47, and Salomon, 46, settled their divorce Monday, releasing a joint statement Wednesday apologizing for how “harsh and cruel” the proceedings were.
“Rick’s lifestyle and what came with it was too hard for her,” the source adds. “As open-minded as she is, she is still just an old-fashioned, small-town romantic girl – while Rick will always be a city-street kid. Marriage doesn’t suit his lifestyle. Still, Pamela will always be the love of his life.”
“It has been an emotional roller coaster since their first marriage,” the source explains. “We all know they will be friends again one day, but the dramatic divorce took its toll and caused unnecessary grief.”
For now, “Pamela has pushed Rick away completely and will not speak to him. We are sure it is for the best for now,” the source says. “She didn’t want any money, and even gave the car back he gave her two Christmases ago. He insisted on looking out for her by paying some outstanding bills, but that s it. It was never about money. Pamela has her own money.”
Salomon and their Rottweiler dog, Bumble Bee, have been living in Las Vegas since Anderson filed for divorce in California in February.
“She agreed to settle the divorce in Nevada as he wished,” the source says. “It got ugly unnecessarily through miscommunication.”
Despite years of ups and downs, “they are completely supportive of each other,” the source says. “Things will blow over. They have just chosen not to be married. The kids are all ok and doing well. And they all understand it was a big risk.”