"There's something kinetic about him," Patrick Harris says of "better half" Burtka

By Tim Nudd
Updated January 18, 2012 09:20 AM
Credit: Courtesy OUT

Images of bliss – and a backstory that’s a bit more complicated.

That’s what Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka offer in Out magazine’s annual Love Issue, posing for some intimate photos while ruminating on the ups and downs of their relationship.

“There’s something kinetic about him and his being. He’s classically sexy, yet he’s very much a boy in his energy. It’s a great dynamic,” Harris, 38, writes of Burtka, 36, in the piece, which includes a photo of the couple lounging in bed.

He adds: “When I see people who are equally attractive, they tend to seem quiet and kind of Marlboro Man-y, and David’s the antithesis of that. He’s more like Tigger. I’m, in turn, very introspective – the thinker, rather than the doer. … We’re hyper similar and also incredibly opposite.”

Of Harris, Burtka writes, “Without him, I can’t breathe. The biggest thing is that he makes me laugh, but he’s also smart. He can do everything. I’m not kidding; I think he’s half robot. He makes me a little more grounded, and I bring out the wild side in him.”

Not that it’s perfect all the time. Harris talks about the work needed to maintain a relationship, writing: “Sometimes I’m deeply in love with David and head-over-heels, and sometimes I question whether it’s going to work out and is meant to be.” And Burtka adds: “It’s more good times than bad, but it’s not always good.”

Still, Harris looks forward to the day when he and Burtka – who have 15-month-old twins – tie the knot.

“I’m not the biggest fan of the word ‘partner’: It either means that we run a business together or we’re cowboys,” he writes. ” ‘Boyfriend’ seems fleeting, like maybe we met two weeks ago. I’ve been saying ‘better half’ for as long as I’ve been able to. I think it’s a little self-deprecating and clearly defines that we’re in a relationship, but it would be nice to say ‘my husband.’ “