Kevin Costner Opens Up About Past Fear of Settling Down

"I wouldn't even use the word 'love' with someone," says the now happily married star


He may play hardened heroes like Eliot Ness onscreen, but in real life, Kevin Costner’s biggest crisis came about because of his fear – of babies. Having another one, that is.

“For years, fear kept me from marrying Christine,” Costner says of his wife of four years. “Christine wanted a child, but I was afraid I couldn’t be an effective father.”

In an interview with Parade, out Sunday, the 53-year-old Swing Vote star says the painful divorce from his first wife left him unprepared to ever love again.

“I was like the classic single guy – who do I love this week, who next week?” he says. “I wouldn’t even use the word ‘love’ with someone, because that makes things trickier.”

But, he obviously had a change of heart. “[One day] I woke up and thought, ‘Am I going to lose a beautiful woman who is willing to be with me to my very last breath because I am afraid to say yes to a child?’ That’s all it took,” he said. “I decided that I was not going to miss out on love.”

Costner and his wife now have a 1-year-old son, Cayden.

Ironically, Costner’s problem with women used to be that he could never get one.

“I just didn’t have luck with them,” he says. “In high school, when I got my driver’s license, girls looked at it and said, ‘You’re cute.’ Well, baby ducks are cute, if you know what I mean. I put my driver’s license away.”

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