The singer tells Complex all about his previous relationship, that bucket incident and getting arrested

By Nick Maslow
Updated September 28, 2015 02:25 PM
Credit: David Black

Justin Bieber is dropping clues about a new romance and setting the record straight on his previous on-again, off-again relationship with Selena Gomez in a no-holds-barred interview.

“We were so in love,” the singer, 21, told Complex magazine of Gomez for his new cover story. “Nothing else mattered. We were all about each other. But when it’s like that and you get your value from that, people will always disappoint you. Your girl or your dude, they’re always going to disappoint you. Your full identity can’t be in that person. My identity was in her. Her identity was in me.”

Bieber, whose latest hit single “What Do You Mean?” centers on a confusing and frustrating relationship, was asked by the magazine what he learned from his time with Gomez, 23.

“Don’t fall in love,” he said. “No, I’m just kidding. I learned a lot. I moved in with my girlfriend when I was 18. Started my own life with her. It was a marriage kind of thing. Living with a girl, it was just too much at that age.”

He added, “When stuff would happen, I would lose my freakin’ mind, and she would lose her mind, and we would fight so hard because we were so invested in each other. Love is a choice. Love is not a feeling. People have made it seem in movies that it’s this fairy tale.”

While explaining how the relationship continues to affect him, Bieber revealed that he was dating someone new at the time of the interview.

“Even like – I’m kind of seeing this girl, right?” he said. “I’m shy about doing or saying certain things, and then I say it and it’s not even a problem. And I’ll remember when I couldn’t … You’re just scarred and you don’t do something because in your last relationship they’d freak out, but [the new person is] just like, ‘What are you talking about?’ ”

Gomez has also shed new light on their connection recently. In an interview for ELLE‘s October cover story, the former Disney star told the magazine she will “forever support him and love him.” She has also shown support for his comeback, telling the New York Times, “While people were writing that I was stupid for being in it, this is what I always saw in him. I’m like, duh!”

Bieber’s candor with Complex extended to topics beyond relationships – he also got real about the public’s reaction to him urinating in a bucket in 2013.

“Honestly, I think the pissing in the bucket wasn’t as big as people made it seem,” Bieber said of the incident. “Just because, dude, think about it. Imagine, you hear that f—ing Ozzy Osbourne pisses backstage. Immediately, ‘Oh, he’s a freaking rock star!’ As soon as I do it, ‘He’s being a brat.’ Dude, what is bratty about pissing in a bucket? I had to go piss – we all have to pee. The bathroom was like on the other side, and the dude in the club was like, ‘Just pee here.’ He told me I could and it wasn’t like I was being disrespectful. I feel like that was pretty ostracizing – bigger than it should’ve been.”

Then there’s that time he was arrested after being accused of drag racing while under the influence in Miami in 2014. Although Bieber eventually plead guilty to misdemeanor careless driving and resisting arrest without violence charges as part of a deal with prosecutors, the singer told the magazine he blames the arrest on his celebrity status.

“The police, they just wanted press; they wanted attention,” he said. “I never was speeding; I never was drag racing. Everything that comes out of Miami was ‘Justin with his dad drag racing.’ … The cop supposedly wanted to be famous for arresting celebrities, and someone had heard him say that prior to that. I wasn’t drinking. I blew the thing and I had 0.01. I might have had a beer earlier in the day or something.”

He continued, “I was like, ‘Officer, what’s going on? What did I do?’ And he was like, ‘Put your hands on the hood!’ I was like, ‘What?’ I lifted my hands and I was like, ‘What do you mean? What’s going on?’ He was like, ‘I told you. Put your hands on the hood! Now you’re under arrest for resisting arrest!’ I felt it, dude. I was just like, ‘Oh, they’re trying to get me right now at any cost.’ I went in, and I’m telling you that 24 hours sucked. It was really cold. That was the worst part about it.”

Bieber has been increasingly more open about the role religion has played in his next chapter. He reunited with Gomez to visit celebrity pastor and mutual friend Rich Wilkerson Jr. in May and was vocal about his beliefs while working with former Victoria’s Secret model Xenia Deli on the “What Do You Mean?” music video.

“It doesn’t make you a Christian just by going to church,” Bieber told the magazine. “I think that going to church is fellowship, it’s relationship, it’s what we’re here on the earth to do, to have this connection that you feel there’s no insecurities. I think that’s where we need to be. Like I said, you don’t need to go to church to be a Christian. If you go to Taco Bell, that doesn’t make you a taco.”