"It's painful, it's difficult, it might be easier to say, 'I never want to see you again,' but what good does that do anyone?" she tells Harper's Bazaar U.K.

By Tara Fowler
December 30, 2014 07:00 PM
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After her split from husband Chris Martin earlier this year, Gwyneth Paltrow decided to forge new ground and stay close with her ex, continuing to spend time with him and even going on a family vacation directly following the split.

On the subject of staying friends, the mother of two tells Harper’s Bazaar U.K. in its February issue, on newsstands Friday: “It’s painful, it’s difficult, it might be easier to say, ‘I never want to see you again,’ but what good does that do anyone?”

“We’ve made a lot of mistakes, and we’ve had good days and bad days, but I have to say, I’m proud of us for working through so much stuff together – and not blaming and shaming.”

Paltrow admits that at 25, Martin may have been too young when they met. “Men are very young at that age, and I was relying on him very heavily and I really expected him to keep being this grown man and pillar of strength – which he was and is – but it’s also quite an unfair set of criteria to give to someone who’s just 25 years old.”

In addition to keeping a strong relationship with Martin, Paltrow, 42, says she values her friendships with women. She says women should learn to stop talking smack about each other.

“Women really need to examine why they’re so vitriolic to other women,” she tells the magazine. “Why they want to twist words, why they want to read about someone else in a negative light and why that feels good to them.”

That’s not to say that the Mortdecai star thinks all women are mean girls at heart. “But I also know a huge tribe of women who are loving and supportive of other women, in ways that are completely transformative,” she adds.

Gwyneth Paltrow
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