"It's kind of a goofy term," she tells Howard Stern

By Dana Rose Falcone
Updated January 14, 2015 03:00 PM
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When Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin announced they were breaking up by using the term “consciously uncoupling,” the world reacted with a giant smirk – and some confusion as to what she was even talking about.

But don’t blame Paltrow: She didn’t coin the phrase herself.

As she explained to Howard Stern on his SiriusXM radio show on Wednesday, it actually comes from philosopher Dr. Habib Sadeghi and his wife Dr. Shahrzad and means to split up with “minimal acrimony.”

“It s a noble idea, and it’s a great thing to try to do for your kids,” says the actress, 42.

The Mortdecai star and Martin, 37, have two children together, Apple, 10, and Moses, 8, and she said the point to splitting up without anger is to keep everyone happy.

“We’re always going to be a family,” she said.

And when people who are “consciously uncoupling” spend time with their children, that means doing so without tension, Paltrow said.

The actress added that during family time, she tries to find love and forgiveness for Martin – and hopes he does the same.

“We actually have a really strong friendship and we laugh and have fun,” the former Glee guest-star says. “And we’re lucky in that our parenting styles and philosophies overlap a lot.”

When asked how she feels about the possibility of Martin bringing other women around their kids, Paltrow said she knows the Coldplay singer loves his little ones so much that “I don’t think he’d be with someone who isn t great.” (For her part, Paltrow has been rumored to be dating Glee producer Brad Falchuck.)

And despite the rare occasions when they’d prefer not to spend time with each other, Paltrow ultimately believes in their unique approach.

“It’s working,” she said, “but it is kind of a goofy term.”

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