The No Doubt singer also calls it "mind-blowing" that people still love her music

By Tim Nudd
Updated February 03, 2015 03:30 PM
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Not too many rock ‘n’ roll marriages stand the test of time. And Gwen Stefani couldn’t be more grateful that she’s among the lucky ones.

“We go through so much together – it’s a miracle that we could stay together this long,” the No Doubt singer, 45 – who married Bush frontman Gavin Rossdale in 2002 after six years of dating – tells Cosmopolitan in their March issue, on newsstands Feb. 10.

So, what’s the secret? Stefani says it’s about finding the balance between being together (Rossdale joined his wife on The Voice recently) and having time for yourself.

“[Gavin’s] on a short tour right now, and he wrote me the sweetest note this morning,” she says. “It’s good to have those days when we both do our own things. I think that’s what keeps relationships going, when both people can be themselves and have their own individuality. That’s especially important for women – it’s hard to find time for yourself.”

It doesn’t hurt, of course, that Rossdale, 49, is a pretty attractive guy.

“I never really saw myself landing a guy that hot,” Stefani admits. “I don’t know if I was a nerd in high school, but I definitely wasn’t the super-cute cheerleader so I never saw myself getting somebody like that. But I do think he’s quite handsome. It’s not the most important thing about him, but it is nice and he makes really cute babies!”

Indeed, life is good for Stefani, Rossdale and their three sons – personally and professionally. And on the latter score, Stefani – who’s preparing for a solo concert on Saturday in Los Angeles – doesn’t take anything for granted.

“My parents taught us, ‘[Music] is your hobby. People don’t make it. It just doesn’t happen,’ ” she says. “It still shocks me that people care about me. I trip out about it all the time. It’s mind-blowing!”

She adds: “For me, I’ve never gotten to a point where I felt, ‘Okay, I’ve made it, I’m number one!’ It’s an amazing feeling to hit number one, but it’s not that different a feeling from not being number one. It’s really about the journey – that’s where the joy comes. It’s not about the end result, because there isn’t really ever an end.”