Debra Messing Splits from Daniel Zelman

The actress and her husband of 10 years "remain supportive of one another," her rep tells PEOPLE

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Debra Messing and her husband, Daniel Zelman, have parted ways.

The pair, who are parents to 7½-year-old son Roman, “privately separated earlier this year after a 10 year marriage,” Messing’s rep confirms to PEOPLE.

“The decision was mutual, and they remain supportive of one another and committed to raising their son as a family.”

Messing, 43, first met Zelman – now an actor and producer – when they were both students at New York University (and then dated for eight years).

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She told PEOPLE in 2004, “I want my child to be like my husband. He is sensitive, really intelligent, really funny … but solid. He has a good sense of perspective.”

The Emmy-winning Will & Grace actress will next star in NBC’s new musical drama Smash.

• Reporting by JULIE JORDAN