21 Celebs Who Are Absolutely, 100% Okay With Being Single
Being single is something to embrace - and these stars agree
The Oscar-winner (and newly-minted silver fox) opened up on the Drew Barrymore Show about being happy with her decision to never tie the knot or have kids.
"I think if I'd found the right guy at the right time and wanted to have kids, I probably would have with the right partner," the actress, 61, said. "Because I wasn't ever really confident that I wanted to have kids, and I would rather regret not having kids than have kids and regret it."
She continued, "I really am at this time in my life getting to know who I am and what I want. So I'd love to eventually find someone to share my life with, but if it doesn't happen, I think I'll be just fine."
While appearing on the The Drew Barrymore Show, the actress explained why she's focusing on her relationships with friends and family instead of romantic ones.
"I'm done dating, I've had it with dating," Stone told Barrymore. "I just find people to be insincere and not worth my time. I enjoy my alone time and time with my kids and my friends more."
"I feel like I don't need another kid," the star said, making Barrymore laugh. "I don't want any insincerity and bologna and game playing."
The Basic Instinct actress added that she feels men and women aren't "at the same place right now."
"I have really good men friends but I just feel when it comes to emotional maturity in relationships that men and women are seemingly in different spots," the 62-year-old explained.
"So here's my boyfriend," Stone teased, holding up her dog Bandit to the camera.
"And here's my boyfriend," Barrymore said, doing the same with her dog Douglas. "Apparently we both like hairy men, so that's good."
"I haven't dated anybody for over five years," Theron revealed to host Drew Barrymore on The Drew Barrymore Show. "I'm open when friends of mine are like, 'You should go on a date, you should meet this guy.'"
While the Oscar winner and mother to daughters Jackson and August isn't against a potential relationship, she says, she feels "like I'm in a place in my life where you have to come with a lot of game."
"Not the kind of game that we think of, the kind of game where, my life is really good so you better be able to bring that and maybe better because I just won't accept anything less," Theron said.
She added, "I can honestly say this, on my life, I don't feel lonely."
"Once I had my children, it's not that it replaces something, or that it makes you less interested in something else," she continued. "I'm still firing on all cylinders. I just think your priorities are in a place that is of high demand; it's a lot of work to be a parent. Part of that is at the end of the day I get to bed and I think, 'Oh my God, I wouldn't want this day to be any different.' "
The star revealed on The Drew Barrymore Show that she's single ... for now.
"I'm not closed for business," she explained to guest Jane Fonda, "but I have been exactly in that mentality for the past five years, thinking I just don't have the bandwidth, I don't know if I'm willing to open [up,] I just can't fit it in."
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The actress opened up about her favorite parts of being single on Valentine's Day 2020.
"As a happily and gloriously long time single woman who also has a deep desire to be in romantic partnership with someone, Valentine's Day can feel tricky," she began on Instagram. "But, I am reminded that although I don't have one special partner... my life is wonderfully full of so much special love. And one of my favorite parts of being single is how I get to choose who I spend my time with, share my heart with, hang with, giggle with, call, dine across from."
She added, "I have cultivated a robust tribe around me and today on this designated day of love I hope that all of you in my tribe and all of you remember how lovable we are! Happy Valentines Day!"
The actress echoed those sentiments in an interview with Shape, saying "I am happily single, though that doesn't mean I am not open to and don't want a relationship. But ... I have learned to have a productive relationship with loneliness and an intensely juicy relationship with my joyful solitude - I really enjoy my company."
The star went on to explain that she loves taking herself out for or making herself a good meal, making her bed, and generally practicing self-care.
She added, "One of the things that's been lovely to discover is how I care for myself and how I actively love myself. And I believe that love is an action: You get back what you put in."
After having gone through a very public divorce from her husband of 21 years, Peter Marc Jacobson, in 1999 (after which he publicly revealed he is gay), the star is back in love again - with herself!
"I think that I've had to very consciously work on not being codependent, not being fearful of being by myself or doing things by myself," Drescher told PEOPLE in February 2020. "I really had to make a concerted effort to get past that. And I think that I am good with it now. But still, I'm not like, 'I'd rather stay home by myself than go out and do things by myself.' But then whenever I do do things by myself, I enjoy it."
She added, "And then I think, that hiccup phase where I don't push myself to do it, until the next time I do. So I think that that's been a big hurdle in my life that I needed to conquer. And getting really connected to myself has been a great journey, because now, I'm not even feeling like I have to be in a relationship, because I'm in a relationship with myself - and it's going quite well."
After celebrating her 55th birthday (on Dec. 8), the actress is feeling her best as a single woman.
"There is a difference between being lonely and being alone," Hatcher, who divorced actor Jon Tenney in 2003, told PEOPLE. "I have been single for a very long time but there is nothing lonely about my life. I want to remove the stigma of that."
Hatcher continued: "Many women who get divorced will not get remarried. That kind of sounds depressing but it doesn't have to be. Many women are not just surviving alone, they're thriving. They're empowered, they're making money, they're being healthy, they're traveling. You are allowed to be proud of your life when you're not part of a couple."
The actress isn't dating anyone at the moment, but she also wouldn't call herself single either.
"I never believed the whole 'I'm happy single' spiel. I was like, 'This is totally spiel,' " Watson told British Vogue, speaking about the expectations placed on women, as well as the terminology she uses to refer to her current relationship status. "It took me a long time, but I'm very happy [being single]. I call it being self-partnered."
Watson - who previously dated Glee actor Chord Overstreet and tech manager William "Mack" Knight - said she landed on the term "self-partnered" after grappling with societal pressures placed on women when they turn 30, a birthday milestone she reached in April.
"I just feel like I'm in a different place where I just don't feel like I need that," she told longtime friend Larsa Pippen, while filming. "I'm content hanging out with my friends. I just feel like I'm on a different vibe. I feel so content with just myself."
"I don't feel like I need anybody," she added.
After splitting from boyfriend Younes Bendjima and ending a fling with Luka Sabbat, Kardashian is all about having quality "me" time.
The best thing being about single, according to Berry? Time with her kids - and being able to learn more about herself. "I'm just with my kids and I'm really taking time to think and reflect, and trying to figure out how to make different choices and just have a minute to be with myself," she told PEOPLE in 2017, although Berry's relationship status has changed since then: She recently confirmed she's dating singer Van Hunt.
"This is the first time in my adult life that I haven't been in a relationship, that I'm just all alone, and I do whatever I like to do," Slate, who has now been engaged to boyfriend Ben Shattuck since September 2019, told Vanity Fair back in 2017. "Because I'm a person who also likes to keep an eye on my mental health and my body health, I've treated myself nicely."
"Do I want [a partner]? Maybe," Jones said in an interview in 2017, speaking about life as a single parent. "But I don't feel unhappy or lonely. It would have to be someone so amazing that I would want to make room. Someone who would contribute to my happiness and not take away from it."
The Pitch Perfect 2 star is in no rush to find love, and instead is using her early 20s to focus on her career. "I mean, there's always time for dating," Steinfeld told harper by Harper's BAZAAR. "I do feel that right now though - and I hate saying this - my top priority is what I'm working on. It's that and family, and then everything else."
The actress, who split from longtime partner Tim Robbins in 2009, knows that life is always changing - and being single is a part of that. "[Single life has] been a lot of different things," Sarandon told Reuters in 2012. "It's traumatic and exhilarating. The one thing that's been really clear to me is that you have to think of your own life and your relationship and everything as a living organism. It's constantly moving, changing, growing."
Keaton, who has never married, has never let her relationship status define her. "I remember when I was young I honestly believed in some ridiculous way that you would find someone who would be the person you lived with until you died," she told Wenn. "I don't think that because I'm not married it's made my life any less. That old maid myth is garbage."
With her show The Mindy Project and multiple books under her belt, a relationship may just be the last thing on Kaling's mind. "In my 20s, I was not only boy crazy, but marriage and relationship crazy," she told Flare in 2014. "Now it's almost the opposite. My work is so rewarding and I'm so self-centered about it that I'm kind of excited about not having to go home and ask someone about their day."
She may be married now (to businessman François-Henri Pinault), and it says a lot about her feelings for him. "It's nice to have a relationship, but women have become addicted," Hayek said. "You can have a relationship with God. With nature. With dogs. With yourself. And yes, you can also have a relationship with a man, but if it's going to be a shitty one, it's better to have a relationship with your flowers." It's safe to assume then, that Hayek's relationships with Pianult is not a shitty one.
"Being alone is not the same as being lonely. I like to do things that glorify being alone," Swift, who is currently in a relationship with actor Joe Alwyn, previously told Seventeen. "I buy a candle that smells pretty, turn down the lights and make a playlist of low-key songs. If you don't act like you've been hit by the plague when you're alone on a Friday night, and just see it as a chance to have fun by yourself, it's not a bad day."
The former Vampire Diaries star says that in the end, you need to be true to yourself - and not define yourself with a relationship. "People aren't defined by their relationships," Dobrev, who is dating professional snowboarder Shawn White, told Cosmopolitan. "The whole point is being true to yourself and not losing yourself in relationships."
While Bush admitted she's a "sucker for love", she says that you need to be at peace with yourself before finding someone else. "I don't think you can really, truly be the partner you want to be until you know on an absolute level that you are a complete person on your own. I think that's something all women deserve to know," she told Us Weekly.
Perry knows happiness can come in many forms. "I don't need Prince Charming to have my own happy ending," said Perry (who is now engaged to Orlando Bloom).