8 Things We Know About Breaking Up
According to science
There may not be a fail-proof, definitive guidebook to relationships (although many authors have tried!) – but these studies give us a bit of explanation as to how to navigate breakups (and what they say about you!
1. Breakups cut women more deeply, but they find it easier to move on.
Ladies, if you’re really hurting after a breakup, just blame it on science. The initial pain of a breakup is harder for women to deal with, a study from Binghamton University found. However, there’s a bright side for females: Women may suffer more in the beginning, but eventually, they fully recover. Men typically don’t.
2. If you’re a frequent Twitter user, you’re more likely to cheat.
And get divorced, according to a study from the University of Missouri-Columbia. People who used Twitter more often were more likely to have tiffs with their partner about the social network, which then upped their chances of breaking up, divorce, and infidelity.
3. When it comes to breaking up, people tend to focus on the "how" after the fact.
Indiana University professor Ilana Gershon found that when people share their breakup stories, they talk about how it was done – over text, in person, over the phone, or if you’re Carrie Bradshaw, by post-it – rather than who did it and why the relationship ended.
4. Dwelling on a breakup actually speeds up the healing process.
Next time your friends tell you to get off the couch and put away the Ben & Jerry’s during a breakup, tell them to shove it. A study from Northwestern University and the University of Arizona says that spending more time reflecting on the end of a relationship can help to speed up the moving on process.
5. Breaking up leaves a person’s self image vulnerable.
You may call “duh” on this one, but hey, now it’s got the science to back it up. A study from Northwestern University says that when a relationship ends, people aren’t just missing their partner, but are even more susceptible to changing as a person. Oftentimes, this is because they’re unsure of who they are without their partner.
6. A pretty big portion of teens and young adults have sex with their exes.
For a chunk of millennials, breaking up often doesn’t mean for good. A study done by the University of Wisconsin, Milwaukee and Bowling Green State University found that 44 percent of couples age 17 to 24 reunited with their exes after breaking up – and 53 percent of those couples who reunited https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2013/01/130122122440.htm
7. Seeing a photo of the person who broke up with you post-break up triggers some weird stuff.
As in, the same reaction in your brain that addicts have when they see the substance they’re addicted to. Rutgers University anthropologist Helen Fisher discovered this reaction in a study published in the Journal of Neurophysiology.
8. More social media means more problems when it comes to breakups.
We know that Twitter can cause up your chances of cheating (or being cheated on) and getting divorced, but it seems that in general, social media is bad news when it comes to relationships. As you might expect, a study from the University of California, Santa Cruz found that not only does social media make it harder to move on from a break up, but all that digital evidence can create more problems during the breakup itself. Yikes.