By People Staff
May 20, 2002 12:00 PM

Having a Baby After 40

I enjoyed your article about women having children past age 40. I married for the first time at 41, had my first child at 42 and my second just three weeks shy of my 46th birthday. I believe your article will do a lot of good for women who worry they may have waited too long and could lose this ultimate joy of motherhood.

Lucinda Lubus Johnson, Warwick, R.I.

Having a child late in life is often misunderstood. Sometimes you don’t find your soulmate until late in life, as happened to me when I married at 36. I have no regrets that I had my three children at 37, 41 and 44. Yes, I may be slowing down physically, but I’m more mature and financially stable and don’t feel resentful when I stay home with my kids instead of traveling or partying.

Mary Mes, Lafayette, Calif.

I was a healthy girl born to a 43-year-old woman back in 1968. My mother is now 77 and suffers from Alzheimer’s disease. Out of embarrassment when I was small, she told me to tell people she was my grandmother. I was never embarrassed by her age, but the downside is real. My parents will not contribute to my children’s upbringing, and my children will never know how special their grandparents were.

Kathy Carver, Madisonville, Ky.

It’s unfortunate that more women in their 40s don’t consider adoption. There are thousands of children waiting for someone to love them. Conceiving and bearing a child can be wonderful, but the real rewards are in parenting.

Melissa Appelton, Windsor, Ont.

Let’s see, first there’s making babies and putting family first, then young brides with or without babies, then having babies after 40. What’s next? Sex after 70? Come on, PEOPLE, get back to business. If I wanted to read about the latest trends in parenting, I’d go buy Parenting magazine.

Tracy Bachman, Newark, Del.

I almost didn’t read your cover story, since I don’t have kids and don’t plan to. But the mix of real and celebrity experiences with straightforward medical information was fascinating.

Ruth E. Thaler-Carter, Rochester, N.Y.

Benjamin Bratt and Talisa Soto

I was happy to read that Benjamin and Talisa were married. They make a beautiful couple. With the same goals in life, I think they will be together for a very long time.

Susan Vilga, Valparaiso, Ind.

Robert Urich

Robert Urich was a gentleman, sensitive and loving to his family, friends and fans. Your article described his character exactly as such. I read what his wife, Heather Menzies, last said to him. Heather, please know that Robert came into our hearts too, and he will always be safe there.

Lea Ann Powell, Acworth, Ga.

The Osbournes

Being a longtime fan of Ozzy Osbourne, I thought it was great to see how this bat-biting man is living his life today. Some can’t seem to get over Ozzy’s past, but when you watch the show you’ll see he has very much learned from his mistakes and has moved on to be a true family man. They may not be your average family, but they are one I truly enjoy watching.

Michelle Corvin, via e-mail

After reading about the Osbournes and Henry Winkler’s remark that their show is like watching your own family, I have come to the conclusion that either my family must be totally abnormal or that he is out to lunch. I am appalled that Henry Winkler thinks that the Osbournes are like the all-American family. I have two teenagers, and he couldn’t be further off base thinking that this is the way most families act. The families I know do not use such foul language and show a lack of respect for each other. I cannot imagine that the Cunninghams ever acted like that!

Lisa Connolly, Smethport, Pa.

Julie Bishop

We all look for a culprit when it comes to the unexpected loss of life. However, as a 27-year-old who battled a five-year war against acne until Accutane proved to be, literally, a lifesaver, it seems clear to me that Julie Bishop is looking to blame something or someone for what may well be unexplainable.

David Phelps, Milwaukee, Wis.

The Ben Shohams and Abu Eids

When I read your article “Worlds Apart,” it brought me to tears. My 3-month-old has just learned to laugh. And my 3-year-old can identify the letters in his name. I can’t imagine the pain of losing a child, a tragedy experienced by both the Abu Eid and Ben Shoham families. What will it take to halt the violence?

Fern Cohen, Columbia, Md.