In the rigid social system of Bethel Regional High School in Bethel, a remote town in the tundra of southwest Alaska, Evan Ramsey was an outcast, a status earned by his slight frame, shy manner, poor grades and broken family. “Everybody had given me a nickname: Screech, the nerdy character on Saved by the Bell,” he recalls. “I got stuff thrown at me, I got spit on, I got beat up. Sometimes I fought back, but I wasn’t that good at fighting.” Taunted throughout his years in school, he reported the incidents to his teachers, and at first his tormentors were punished. “After a while [the principal] told me to just start ignoring everybody. But then you can’t take it anymore.”
On the morning of Feb. 19, 1997, Ramsey, then 16, went to school with a 12-gauge shotgun, walked to a crowded common area and opened fire. As schoolmates fled screaming, he roamed the halls shooting randomly-mostly into the air. Ramsey would finally surrender to police, but not before killing basketball star Josh Palacios, 16, with a blast to the stomach, and principal Ron Edwards, 50, who was shot in the back. Tried as an adult for murder, Ramsey was sentenced to 210 years in prison after a jury rejected a defense contention that he had been attempting “suicide by cop,” hoping to be gunned down but not intending to kill anyone. Still, Ramsey now admits in his cell at Spring Creek Correctional Center in Seward, Alaska, “I felt a sense of power with a gun. It was the only way to get rid of the anger.”
Unfortunately Ramsey is not alone. Children all over the country are feeling fear, hopelessness and rage, emotions that turn some of them into bullies and others into their victims. Some say that is how it has always been and always will be-that bullying, like other adolescent ills, is something to be endured and to grow out of. But that view is changing. At a time when many parents are afraid to send their children to school, the wake-up call sounded by the 13 killings and 2 suicides at Columbine High School in Colorado two years ago still reverberates. It is now clear that Columbine shooters Dylan Klebold and Eric Harris felt bullied and alienated, and in their minds it was payback time.
In recent months there have been two other horrifying shooting incidents resulting, at least in part, from bullying. On March 5, 15-year-old Charles “Andy” Williams brought a .22-cal. pistol to Santana High School in Santee, Calif., and shot 15 students and adults, killing 2. He was recently certified to stand trial for murder as an adult. His apparent motive? Lethal revenge for the torment he had known at the hands of local kids. “We abused him pretty much, I mean verbally,” concedes one of them. “I called him a skinny faggot one time.”
Two days after the Williams shooting, Elizabeth Bush, 14, an eighth grader from Williamsport, Pa., who said she was often called “idiot, stupid, fat, ugly,” brought her father’s .22-cal. pistol to school and shot 13-year-old Kimberly Marchese, wounding her in the shoulder. Kimberly, one of her few friends, had earned Elizabeth’s ire by allegedly turning on her and joining in with the taunters. Bush admitted her guilt and offered apologies. A ward of the court until after she turns 21, she is now in a juvenile psychiatric facility. Kimberly, meanwhile, still has bullet fragments in her shoulder and is undergoing physical therapy.
As school enrollment rises and youths cope with the mounting pressures of today’s competitive and status-conscious culture, the numbers of bullied children have grown as rapidly as the consequences. According to the National Education Association, 160,000 children skip school each day because of intimidation by their peers. The U.S. Department of Education reports that 77 percent of middle and high school students in small mid-western towns have been bullied. And a National Institutes of Health study newly released in the Journal of the American Medical Association reveals that almost a third of 6th to 10th graders-5.7 million children nationwide-have experienced some kind of bullying. “We are talking about a significant problem,” says Deborah Prothrow-Stith, professor of public health practice at Harvard, who cites emotional alienation at home as another factor in creating bullies. “A lot of kids have grief, loss, pain, and it’s unresolved.”
Some experts see bullying as an inevitable consequence of a culture that rewards perceived strength and dominance. “The concept of power we admire is power over someone else,” says Jackson Katz, 41, whose Long Beach, Calif., consulting firm counsels schools and the military on violence prevention. “In corporate culture, in sports culture, in the media, we honor those who win at all costs. The bully is a kind of hero in our society.” Perhaps not surprisingly, most bullies are male. “Our culture defines masculinity as connected to power, control and dominance,” notes Katz, whose work was inspired in part by the shame he felt in high school when he once stood idly by while a bully beat up a smaller student.
As for the targets of bullying, alienation runs like a stitch through most of their lives. A study last fall by the U.S. Secret Service found that in two-thirds of the 37 school shootings since 1974, the attackers felt “persecuted, bullied, threatened, attacked or injured.” In more than three-quarters of the cases, the attacker told a peer of his violent intentions. William Pollack, a clinical psychologist and author of Real Boys’ Voices, who contributed to the Secret Service study, said that several boys from Columbine described bullying as part of the school fabric. Two admitted to mock-Klebold and Harris. “Why don’t people get it that it drives you over the edge?” they told Pollack. “It isn’t just Columbine. It is everywhere.”
That sad fact is beginning to sink in, as the spate of disturbing incidents in recent years has set off desperate searches for answers. In response, parents have begun crusades to warn and educate other families, courts have seen drawn-out legal battles that try to determine who is ultimately responsible, and lawmakers in several states-including Texas, New York and Massachusetts-have struggled to shape anti-bullying legislation that would offer remedies ranging from early intervention and counseling to the automatic expulsion of offenders.
One of the most shocking cases of victimization by bullies took place near Atlanta on March 28,1994. That day, 15-year-old Brian Head, a heavyset sophomore at suburban Etowah High School, walked into his economics class, pulled out his father’s 9-mm handgun and pressed it to his temple. “I can’t take this anymore,” he said. Then he squeezed the trigger. Brian had been teased for years about his weight. “A lot of times the more popular or athletic kids would make him a target,” his mother, Rita, 43, says of her only child, a sensitive boy with a gift for poetry [see page 59]. “They would slap Brian in the back of the head or push him into a locker. It just broke him.” Not a single student was disciplined in connection with his death. After his suicide, Rita, a magazine copy editor, and her husband, Bill, 47, counseled other parents and produced a video for elementary school students titled But Names Will Never Hurt Me about an overweight girl who suffers relentless teasing.
Georgia residents were stunned by a second child’s death on Nov. 2,1998. After stepping off a school bus, 13-year-old Josh Belluardo was fatally punched by his neighbor Jonathan Miller, 15, who had been suspended in the past for bullying and other infractions. In that tragedy’s wake Georgia Gov. Roy Barnes in 1999 signed an anti-bullying law that allows schools to expel any student three times disciplined for picking on others.
On the other side of the continent, Washington Gov. Gary Locke is pressing for anti-bullying training in schools, following two high-profile cases there. Jenny Wieland of Seattle still cannot talk of her only child, Amy Ragan, shot dead at age 17 more than eight years ago, without tearing up. A soccer player and equestrian in her senior year at Marysville-Pilchuck High School, Amy was heading to the mall on the night of Nov. 20,1992, when she stopped at a friend’s apartment. There, three schoolmates had gathered by the time Trevor Oscar Turner showed up. Then 19, Turner was showing off a .38-cal. revolver, holding it to kids’ heads, and when he got to Amy, the weapon went off. Turner pleaded guilty to first-degree manslaughter and served 27 months of a 41-month sentence.
“I can’t help but wonder what Amy’s life would be like if she was still alive,” says Wieland today. “I wonder about her career and if she’d be in love or have a baby.” Wieland turned her grief into action. In 1994 she helped start Mothers Against Violence in America (MAVIA), an activist group patterned after Mothers Against Drunk Driving. She left her insurance job to become the program’s director and speaks annually at 50 schools. In 1998 she became the first director of SAVE (Students Against Violence Everywhere), which continues to grow, now boasting 126 student chapters nationwide that offer schools anti-harassment and conflict-resolution programs. “People ask how I can stand to tell her story over and over,” she says. “If I can save just one child, it’s well worth the pain.”
Not long after Amy Ragan’s death, another bullying scenario unfolded 50 miles away in Stanwood, Wash. Confined to a wheelchair by cerebral palsy, Calcutta-born Taya Haugstad was a fifth grader in 1993, when a boy began calling her “bitch” and “retard.” The daily verbal abuse led to terrible nightmares. By middle school, according to a lawsuit Taya later filed, her tormentor-a popular athlete-got physical, pushing her wheelchair into the wall and holding it while his friends kicked the wheels. Eventually Taya was diagnosed with posttraumatic stress disorder. “Imagine that you can’t run away or scream,” says her psychologist Judith McCarthy. “Not only was she traumatized, she’s handicapped. She felt terribly unsafe in the world.” Her adoptive parents, Karrie and Ken Haugstad, 48 and 55, complained to school authorities and went to court to get a restraining order against the bully, but it was never issued. Taya sued the school district and the boy in 1999. The judge awarded her $300,000 last year, ruling that the school was negligent in its supervision, thus inflicting emotional distress. (The ruling is under appeal.) Taya, now 19 and a high school junior, hopes to study writing in college. She says she holds no grudge against her nemesis, who received undisclosed punishment from the school. “I don’t think about him,” she says.
But Josh Sneed may never forgive the boys he refers to as the Skaters. It was in 1996, late in his freshman year at Powell High School in Powell, Tenn., when, he says, a group of skateboarders began to terrorize him. With chains clinking and baseball bats pounding the pavement, he claims, they chased him and threatened to beat him to death. Why Josh? He was small and “a country boy,” says his homemaker mother, Karen Grady, 41. “They made fun of him for that. They told him he was poor and made fun of him for that.”
Then on Oct. 17,1996, “I just snapped,” her son says. As Jason Pratt, known as one of the Skaters, passed him in the cafeteria, Sneed whacked him on the head with a tray. “I figured if I got lucky and took him out, all the other nonsense would stop.” But after a few punches, Josh slipped on a scrap of food, hit his head on the floor and lost consciousness as Pratt kneed him in the head several times. Finally a football player leapt over two tables and dragged Sneed away, likely saving his life. Four titanium plates were needed to secure his shattered skull, and he was so gravely injured that he had to relearn how to walk and talk. Home-schooled, Sneed eventually earned his GED, but he hasn’t regained his short-term memory. Assault charges against both him and Pratt were dismissed, but Pratt (who declined to comment) was suspended from school for 133 days.
Grady sued the county, claiming that because the school knew Josh was being terrorized but never disciplined the tormentors, they effectively sanctioned the conditions that led to the fight. Her attorney James A.H. Bell hopes the suit will have national implications. “We tried to make a statement, holding the school system accountable for its failure to protect,” he says. In February Sneed and Grady were awarded $49,807 by a judge who found the county partly at fault. A tractor buff who once aspired to own a John Deere shop, Josh now lives on his grandfather’s farm, passing his days with cartoons, video games and light chores. “Everybody’s hollering that they need to get rid of guns, but it’s not that,” he says. “You need to find out what’s going on in school.”
Around the country, officials are attempting to do precisely that, as many states now require a safe-school plan that specifically addresses bullying. Most experts agree that metal detectors and zero-tolerance expulsions ignore the root of the problem. Counseling and fostering teamwork seem most effective, as evidenced by successful programs in the Cherry Creek, Colo., school district and DeKalb County, Ga. “We create an atmosphere of caring-it’s harder to be a bully when you care about someone,” says John Monferdini, head counselor at the DeKalb Alternative School, which serves 400 county students, most of whom have been expelled for bullying and violent behavior. Apart from academics, the school offers conflict-resolution courses and team-oriented outdoor activities that demand cooperation. “Yeah, I’m a bully,” says Chris Jones, 15. “If I’m with friends and we see someone coming along we can jump on, we do it. It’s like, you know, an adrenaline rush.” But a stint in DeKalb is having a transformative effect. “When I came here, it was because we beat up a kid so badly-sticking his head in the bleachers-and the only thing I wished was that we’d had a chance to hurt him worse before we got caught. That’s not the way I am now.”
One wonders if intervention might have restrained the bullies who tormented Evan Ramsey. Ineligible for parole until 2066, when he’ll be 86, Ramsey, now 20, spends most days working out, playing cards, reading Stephen King novels and studying for his high school diploma. He also has plenty of time to reflect on the horrible error in judgment he made. “The worst thing is to resort to violence,” he says. “I’d like to get letters from kids who are getting problems like I went through. I could write back and help them.” His advice: “If they’re being messed with, they have to tell someone. If nothing’s done, then they have to go [to] higher and higher [authority] until it stops. If they don’t get help, that’s when they’ll lose it and maybe do something bad-really bad. And the pain of doing that never really stops.”
Ron Arias in Seward, Mary Boone in Seattle, Lauren Comander in Chicago, Joanne Fowler in New York City, Maureen Harrington in Stanwood, Ellen Mazo in Jersey Shore, Pa., Jamie Reno in Santee, Don Sider in West Palm Beach and Gail Cameron Wescott in Atlanta