She had a custom-made Chanel dress, more than 14 carats of diamonds and a reception that would make any gourmand weep with joy. But ask Drew Barrymore which special touches at her wedding were the closest to her heart, and she brings up-what else?-the good old-fashioned fun. The actress loved the silhouette-maker who “cut away through the night,” she told PEOPLE the day after her June 2 nuptials, along with the photo booth snapping “beautiful black-and-whites” and a kids’ area with a “tepee, blankets, pillows and a mini movie theater playing Pippi Longstocking and Finding Nemo.” Surrounded by 190 family members and friends, Barrymore, 37, and Will Kopelman, 34, an art consultant, put their own joyful stamp on the celebration. “The day was perfect,” says Barrymore. “Everyone we love and care about was there. It was as fun and meaningful as we ever could have hoped.”

Held at Barrymore’s $5.7 million Mediterranean-style Montecito, Calif., home, the nuptials had a decidedly-and intentionally-low-key feel. “They just wanted a backyard wedding,” says event planner Yifat Oren, who, along with Stefanie Cove, put together an “ethereal” party with a “vintage romantic” style for the couple and guests including Cameron Diaz and Reese Witherspoon. “Drew was so effervescent and so happy in every bite of food she took, every speech, every song,” says Oren. “She’s just the real deal.”

And friends of the star say that’s exactly what she’s found in her new husband. Raised in New York City, the son of Arie Kopelman (the former CEO of Chanel) and Coco, Will (see box, below) “is charismatic and intelligent,” says photographer Patrick McMullan, a family friend. “He doesn’t care that she’s [famous]. He is interested in her for her.” From the moment they began dating last year, Barrymore was smitten. Although she had been briefly married twice before (to British bartender Jeremy Thomas in 1994 and comedian Tom Green in 2001), “you could tell she was serious with Will,” says the source. “She seemed excited to share her life with him.”

Now pregnant and due later this year, Barrymore was more than ready to make it official. “Drew actually wasn’t nervous; she was all about it,” says Oren. “She was excited and happy.” The actress, whose father, John, died in 2004, was escorted by her groom’s father; her production partner Nancy Juvonen was her matron of honor. Wearing a Chanel dress specially created by head designer Karl Lagerfeld himself, Barrymore “looked gorgeous, completely relaxed and beautiful,” says a source close to her. “She was radiant.”

In a traditional Jewish ceremony officiated by the Kopelmans’ rabbi Peter Rubinstein, the pair exchanged vows under a chuppah (canopy) decorated with lace and roses. Kopelman’s sister, author Jill Kargman, read a passage from The Velveteen Rabbit, and Barrymore’s close friend Diaz added some Hollywood glamour by reciting the same E.E. Cummings poem she read aloud in her 2005 film In Her Shoes. The poem’s title was particularly poignant given Barrymore’s expectant state: “I carry your heart with me.” “Everyone was so happy for them,” says Cove. “The way Drew and Will looked at each other was just so special.” The newlyweds exited to the Beatles’ “I Will.”

With the couple’s favorite chefs serving up specialties, the party turned into a food festival. “They’re both huge foodies, so the menu was really important to them,” Oren says of the selection. For appetizers, chefs Jon Shook and Vinny Dotolo of L.A.’s cult Animal and Son of a Gun restaurants offered lobster rolls and pork buns, while Top Chef Masters alum Naomi Pomeroy of Portland’s Beast, a friend of Barrymore’s, provided foie gras on pink peppercorn shortbread and steak tartare with quail egg. Beverages featured ice cubes with pansy flowers frozen inside.

After the sunset cocktail hour, guests tucked into a family-style dinner catered by L.A.’s Lucques restaurant, featuring fried chicken and steak and a roast by Barrymore’s bridesmaids. “That’s when I laughed the hardest,” Barrymore tells PEOPLE. “Everything they said was deadly accurate, but it was all in such a good spirit.”

After the couple’s first dance (to “No One’s Gonna Love You” by Band of Horses), guests let loose to ’80s cover band the Spazmatics. The newlyweds “were relaxed and having a great time,” says the source close to Barrymore.

By 1:30 a.m., after more late-night chow from L.A.’s Escuela Taqueria and the Santa Barbara food truck the Burger Bus, the pair had slipped off to the nearby San Ysidro Ranch hotel to spend their first night as a married couple. Leaving in a vintage Mercedes, “Drew and Will would not stop kissing,” says a source. “They looked super happy.”

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