By Michelle Tauber
Updated October 15, 2012 12:00 PM

Anne Hathaway and Adam Shulman asked guests at their Sept. 29 wedding to wear their best “romantic vintage” attire-and even distributed a mini style guide for inspiration. They also suggested something a little more practical: comfy shoes. Shuttled from the Ventana Inn & Spa in Big Sur, Calif., to a nearby private ranch on the cliffs overlooking the Pacific, more than 150 friends and family members hiked up a path marked with planks bearing the couple’s favorite phrases about love and marriage. But neither the dazzling sunset view nor the sky-scraping redwood tree under which the wedding party gathered could upstage the bride, who walked down the aisle on the arm of her father, Gerald. Resplendent in a custom Valentino tulle gown with a pink-tinged train and a wide headband and veil, “she looked like a fairy-tale princess,” says an observer. Taking her place under the Jewish wedding canopy, or chuppah, she and Shulman exchanged vows they wrote themselves-each handing their own to the other to read-and Kwiat rings. They also recited Hebrew vows during the ceremony, which was officiated by both a priest and a rabbi. “It was a very soulful, romantic ceremony,” says a friend. “You could tell they had put a lot of thought into making it their own.”

Rugged and romantic, the nuptials between Hathaway, 29, and Shulman, 31, showcased the couple’s earthy, artsy vibe. “The ceremony was so natural and gorgeous,” says an insider. For Hathaway, it was the happily-ever-after she had long envisioned. Wearing little makeup and the pixie haircut she has had since shooting her upcoming movie Les Misérables, the bride “was ecstatic,” says the pal. In Shulman, a Brooklyn-bred actor who proposed to Hathaway with a 6-carat Kwiat diamond ring last November after three years of dating, friends say the Dark Knight Rises actress found her Mr. Right. “Adam is incredibly warm,” says a friend. “He’s all ‘love, peace and happiness.’ Annie is like that too.”

After the ceremony, guests moved to a reception tent filled with wooden farm tables-dotted with mason jar flower arrangements from L.A.’s the Velvet Garden-for a family-style dinner featuring locally grown fare. A jazz trio, Americano Social Club, played, then a deejay spun tunes. (Event planners Yifat Oren and Stefanie Cove orchestrated the festivities.) During the party, Hathaway changed into a “slinky” tea-length white Valentino dress. “She’s like my daughter,” says the 80-year-old designer, who retired in 2008 but personally created both dresses “with great affection, thinking about a happy bride-happy to marry the right man,” says his partner Giancarlo Giammetti. When Hathaway met Shulman in ’08, “I was actually looking forward to a little alone time, and then I fell in love like a fool!” she told Marie Claire U.K. Says her friend: “She said she wanted someone who was kind. Adam supports her completely.”

As they start a new life together, the couple are savoring memories of their big day. Eating lunch overlooking the Pacific at the Post Ranch Inn the day after tying the knot, “they were glowing,” says an observer. The wedding “really was a magical night-otherworldly,” says a friend. “It was exactly what Anne and Adam both wanted.”