PEOPLE is celebrating the Sept. 18 premiere of Dancing with the Stars‘ 25th season with 25 days of exclusive interviews, fun retrospectives, and new details about what fans can expect from the milestone season.
“I messed up already,” the mom of three, 36, told PEOPLE at the Dancing With the Stars season 25 cast party at New York City’s Planet Hollywood Wednesday. “I told Nick, ‘Oh, I think we got a song!’ And then Nick told Peta.”
That got Chmerkovskiy, 37, caught in a lie with Murgatroyd, his wife since July: “She was like, ‘Babe, I asked you and you said no!’ Damn it.”
Vanessa realized there are some things she won’t be able to share with her husband throughout the dance contest.
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“I’m learning, maybe don’t tell everything,” the former Total Request Live host said. “Maks is my TV husband and Nick is my life husband. I have to learn how to separate. It’s really hard.”
Vanessa and Maks have even more in common than competing against their significant others: The Lacheys welcomed their third child, son Phoenix, on Christmas Eve, and Murgatroyd, 31, gave birth to her and Chmerkovskiy’s baby boy Shai, Jan. 4.
PEOPLE’s special issue 25 Seasons of ‘Dancing with the Stars’ is out Sept. 15.
“We are respectful of each other’s careers and family lives and relationships,” Vanessa said. “It was the first day that we just kind of put dancing aside and said, ‘Hey, this is me. I’m a mommy of three kids.’ And he’s like, ‘I’m a daddy. We just got married.’ I see their dynamic, he sees my dynamic. So it’s nice to have this dynamic going into it.”
“This is a really beautiful and intimate thing that you do and it’s intense — both emotionally and physically — and you develop a relationship not only with your partner, but the partner’s family,” she continued. “There’s a bond there that we’ll hopefully have forever.”
Season 25 of Dancing with the Stars premieres Sept. 18 at 8 p.m. ET on ABC.