They say opposites attract. That certainly holds true on The Bachelor when thinking about Selma. From the first night I couldn’t keep my eyes off of the 5′ 1″ dark-haired, olive-skinned, Iraqi beauty. Selma was incredibly beautiful, smart and fun, too!
I was waiting for the perfect date for Selma, and rock climbing could not have been better because she told me she often gets judged as a prissy girl. This was my chance to see if she could rough it for a day.
From the moment I picked Selma up, everything seemed so natural. It amazed me how comfortable I was with her. And on the flight to Joshua Tree, she fell asleep with her head on my chest, which led me to believe she was just as comfortable.
The date itself was incredible. Joshua Tree was such a beautiful place and I was happy to be sharing the experience with Selma.
I had my doubts as to whether she could handle the rock climbing, but she proved she can rough it. She climbed the rock faster than I did! And I think she really had a fun time doing it. At the top we got to watch a beautiful sunset together as our reward. We had so much fun but I was looking forward to what I had in store for her next.
The trailer park was so cool. I’m not sure TV does it justice. Between the retro trailers, lights, AstroTurf and the starry night, it was one of the most romantic places I visited all season. My time with Selma that night was so great. She opened up about past relationships, what she wants out of life and what she wants in a man. Then she dropped the no-kissing bomb on me.
It surprised me because she is so affectionate. After hearing about her mom’s beliefs, I completely understood. She was in a tough spot and wanted to kiss me but she had too much respect for her mom. The no-kissing thing made our relationship more exciting because I had something to look forward to. Plus, Selma’s heart and personality were more than enough. Selma left with a rose and with a piece of my heart. Once again, I was starting to fall for another woman.
On a Roll
The group date started out as a fun idea. I wanted to see who would compete and embrace the physicality of roller derby. But as soon as the girls put on their skates, I knew it was not the most practical date.
Asking the women to skate on an embanked track while hitting each other seemed like a bit much. They were all having a tough time during practice, and then I really had doubts after Amanda fell and busted her chin. That’s when I decided to do an old-school free skate instead. Besides, I was there to spend time with the women and not to watch them kill each other.
The rest of the afternoon was a blast. But I was glad to be off skates and on top of the downtown Roosevelt Lofts for the evening part of the date. I remember having such a nice night before running into Tierra. I knew she was having a tough time with the other women and needed more reassurance than anyone else.
What I didn’t know was how much the other women disliked her. For the most part, Tierra was all smiles around me so I didn’t know she was showing the women another side. When I found her crying on the steps, I knew she doubted whether or not she should be there.
I don’t know what it was about Tierra, but I definitely felt a connection with her that goes back to the first night and I didn’t like seeing her upset. Once again, I did my best to reassure her of my feelings.
I’ll admit my decision to give her the rose was a symbolic Band-Aid. I wanted Tierra to be happy and I wanted to fix whatever was wrong with her. Isn’t that what boyfriends are supposed to do? It was obviously a rash decision that was not received well by the other women. But please keep in mind I had not seen the Tierra they had.
Spark or Sparkle?
You usually know if a spark exists with someone within seconds of meeting that person. In rare cases, a spark can develop into a relationship. I was hoping that would happen with Leslie H. on the Pretty Woman date. She was so friendly, kind and down-to-earth. I think she said, “Holy moly” at least a dozen times because of the extravagance of the date and she was grateful to be on it with me.
I really enjoyed my day and had fun shopping with her. The conversation was effortless and she made me laugh a lot, but I never found the spark I was looking for. Sending her home was one of the more difficult things I had to do all season because I knew she didn’t see it coming. I admired and respected Leslie for so many reasons, but I knew she wasn’t the one for me.
The cocktail party was eventful to say the least! There was more drama with Tierra and the girls, which I did not know about at the time, and a big turning point for Catherine and me. She always stood out in my mind as someone very unique and different. She tapped into my inner nerd, which I loved, but I was afraid that she was putting me in the “friend zone” because every time I tried to show her affection, it didn’t feel like she would reciprocate. And yes, that’s right everyone – I’m a nerd. Deal with it.
Aggressive Friend Zone
Anyway, I was surprised when Catherine gave me the card with a kiss of lipstick on it. I’d call that “aggressive friend zone.” She told me she wanted to kiss me but couldn’t while the other girls were in sight. She was so nervous that she buried her head in my chest and wouldn’t look up. After a few seconds I told her, “It’s okay to look up,” and then we had our first kiss.
What you didn’t see was her excitement after. She was giddy and suggested that we frolic – definitely the first time I received that request, so I obliged. We skipped around the driveway … and then played Dungeons and Dragons (not really).
At the rose ceremony I was left with another tough decision but one I was confident in making. I sent Amanda home because I just didn’t feel a lasting connection with her. Until the show aired, I had no idea that she was a source of drama in the house. Amanda was always very sweet around me and I wish her all the best in the future.
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