The Little Women: LA star, who is partnered with Sasha Farber, tells PEOPLE Now, “I’m discovering that maybe I’m not 100 percent confident like I thought I was and it’s because I’m put into this world that I’m so unfamiliar with.”
“The insecurity that I’ve discovered that I’m having with Dancing with the Stars is the fact that my confidence is not what I originally thought it was,” she explains. “It’s not the fact that I’m not confident in my own skin, but you want to not be judged… I want to be thought of not as an average sized person but just as a person.”
Jolé, 36, says that she thinks Dancing with the Stars has given her the opportunity to express these feelings, but it’s still a scary experience.
“I feel like every week, everybody’s like, ‘Who’s your biggest competitor on the show?’ ” Jolé shares, adding, “And honestly my biggest competitor is me, because I want to prove that I can do this.”
The star explains that the “hardest part” of the reality dancing competition show is accepting her differences and doing so in a way that she can serve as an example to others.
“I don’t look like any of the other dancers on the show and I really — not only am I trying to represent little people with a positive light or people with a disability in a positive light but I really am trying to discover who I am and what makes me okay with myself,” she shares.
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Other struggles come from being separated from her children while rehearsing: Penelope, 18 months, and Grayson, 2 months.
“Being away from my children is the worst, I have no words to describe it,” she tells PEOPLE Now. “I keep reminding myself… this journey will not last forever and you’re doing this for them, you’re doing this for you and that’s what keeps me going.”