Juan Pablo Galavis, former pro soccer player, single father and star of this season’s The Bachelor, is blogging for PEOPLE.com each week about the ladies, the dates and the difficult decisions he faces. This week he also addresses his controversial comments about the idea of a gay Bachelor. Since those remarks, Galavis has apologized and agreed to meet with GLAAD members as well as LGBT Latinos and their families. You can also follow Juan on Twitter @JuanPaGalavis.
It was a little hard to start writing after all that has happened during the past few days. I thank you for coming and reading my blog …
My apology was not enough, so I guess time and my actions will let people know who I really am and my thoughts about how much I respect gay people.
On the show, at least, this was my favorite week.
It started with my one-on-one date with Cassandra. I wanted to make sure early on whether I felt she could be a potential partner, because obviously I don’t want to waste her time away from her son.
The date started at the beach, jumping in a water car and enjoying a ride around town. She had no idea the car was a water car. We drove a bit, and then I faked that I was going to stop in front of the beach, but I pressed the gas until we got into the water. She was scared, but soon she figured it out. We cruised to a yacht and had a great time lying in the sun and talking.
After a great afternoon, I took Cassandra to my house and cooked my signature pasta for her. I wanted her to feel as comfortable as possible so she could talk to me without problems.
We had a great date, especially when we were dancing, because she is a good dancer and I knew she felt in her comfort zone. Seeing pictures of her son really melted my heart, because I know how it feels to be away from your child but also wanting to look for someone to spend the rest of your life with.
Getting Our Kicks
As a soccer player, there was definitely going to be a fétbol date, and I couldn’t wait to take 10 girls on a group date to StubHub Center, the home of the L.A. Galaxy. Being on a soccer field makes me feel like I’m at home. It was my home for 24 years and sometimes still is.
I played for a bit with some of the Galaxy players to warm up, and then the women showed up. I loved seeing them in sportswear. I’m a easygoing kind of guy, and there is nothing more attractive to me than a woman wearing spandex, sports tops and sneakers.
I trained them before the game to see their level of skills and even had some penalty kicks. I was the goalie, and the girls kicked my butt. The game was awesome – I have never seen 10 girls kick each other so hard, run and kick the ball everywhere. Poor Sharleen got beat up, but she kept getting up and kept playing.
The cocktail party was at the stadium, and that was so great to show the girls how soccer has been in my life and will always be an important part of it. Kissing Andi at the concession stand was very steamy – that place was so hot and things got even a little hotter.
Lucy had her birthday that day at 12 a.m., and I waited until 11:55 to talk to her because I thought she needed a special moment. At 12, I brought her a little piece of cake with a candle and sang “Happy Birthday” to her.
My last date of the week was with Chelsie. She is so fun. We danced in the car, and I took her to a bridge. We stopped in the middle, and I made a video where I told her this was our bridge. She said, “We’d better not be jumping off it,” and it was great seeing her reaction when she saw the platform and realized that we were, indeed, going to bungee jump off of it.
We put our gear on and walked up the stairs. When I looked down for the first time, I almost s–– my pants. Oh my God, I was scared, but I was not going to show Chelsie that because she would not have jumped with me. She was also super scared. We walked three times front to back, and I tried my best to keep her calm and make her trust me that everything would be okay. Obviously, trust is very important for a relationship, but if she didn’t want to jump, I was going to understand because is a hard situation to be in. She trusted me, and we jumped. It was a very scary feeling.
That night, I wanted her to relax and have some dinner in a gorgeous setting, and after that I gave her the rose. What better way to end the date than with a Billy Currington concert for the two of us? I knew she loved him and thought she was perfect for this date. I wasn’t wrong.
As I don’t like rose ceremonies and their cocktail parties so much, I decided to break into the mansion and cook breakfast for the girls to get them to loosen up (also to see them without makeup and in their pajamas!).
Seeing everyone in their pajamas was great. Some of them didn’t care that I was at the house, and Renee showed once again what an amazing woman she is by helping me cook and helping the girls clean up everything. Lucy, on the other hand, came down with a T-shirt and underwear, and she stayed that way for all of breakfast. That’s when I realized that she wasn’t good for me and my daughter.
I cooked a Venezuelan breakfast: perico, arepas, etc., and they seemed to like it.
The mood was so great that I changed the cocktail party to a pool party, and that was definitely the cherry on top of the ice cream of a great week with the girls.
Don’t forget to tune into Sean and Catherine’s live wedding on Sunday, and then watch on Monday night for the next chapter in my adventure. Next week we hit the road, and my adventure goes international. And who knows, maybe I find my Seoul mate on the way.
I hope you enjoyed the episode and reading my blog. And once again, to those whom I may have offended with my words, I offer my apologies.