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IT ALL STARTS WITH LOVE
"Just love. Just love each other, lavish each other with love," Kidman shares with PEOPLE of the secret to her happy relationship with her singer-husband. "Also we just happen to like each other too. That works."
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THINK OF ONE ANOTHER
"When you're older, you've been through things, you've made mistakes," says Kidman, reminiscing about her first marriage to ex-husband Tom Cruise. "So you come into [a second marriage], still giddy, but wanting it to last." Of life with Urban, she shares, "We always consider the 'us.' We say, 'Is this going to be good for us?' It's the simplest phrase, but it works."
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LEARN FROM EACH OTHER
"Nic is so unbelievably open; she doesn't keep things in or bottle them up. She's really a great communicator," Urban says. "Because of her, if I open up, every day, I'm listening and growing and learning. If I'm a better man, it's because of her."
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BE ONE ANOTHER'S CONFIDANT
"She's my best friend. I've never had anybody on the planet that knows me as well as she does," the country singer tells PEOPLE of his actress-wife. "I would love to have been worthy of somebody like Nic, but I was a long way from it when we met. Somehow we just found there was love there, real love. I literally just feel like the luckiest guy on the planet."
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TAKE (SOME) THINGS LIGHTLY
You might not expect it, but according to Urban, the stars are "pretty goofy" when they're together: "I mean there's no question that that's what we're like. Anybody that knows us on a personal level knows that’s exactly what we're like most of the time."
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THERE'S NO NEED FOR A VOW RENEWAL ...
... especially when your wedding vows are being put to daily practice. "We don't need to. The vows are strong, we keep them," says Kidman, reacting to rumors she and Urban were having a ceremony in honor of their 10-year wedding anniversary. The country crooner agrees, saying: "They're daily in the sense of action, as opposed to being recited. I like to think of showing those on a daily basis."
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PUT 'LOVE IN ACTION'
"I have an incredible husband who is so willing to get on planes and fly places, even if it's for a night," Kidman says. "I had an opening of the play [Photograph 51] three nights ago, and he's in the middle of a tour in the States. I said, 'It's too much for you to have to fly all the way back, don't worry,' and he said, 'I'm flying.' " She adds: "He flew 10 hours to come and be with me for the night, and then he flew back and did a gig. That for me is love in action. That's extraordinary. But I would do the same for him and that's what we've committed to as a couple."
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SUPPORT EACH OTHER DURING DIFFICULT TIMES
"He has been so good to me for nine years, but for the last month, which has been a really tough time for me he's been amazing," says the actress, opening up about her father's death. "To have my husband just step up that way it makes me cry. We all go through hard times in our lives, but to be literally carried by your partner, and physically, at times, because I was so devastated. I'll do anything for that man."
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KEEP THINGS SPICY
Although the duo have repeatedly shared that they prefer phone calls over text and email when working, Urban does admit he and Kidman sometimes send each other messages of a "different" kind. "Maybe one text. Maybe one cool kind of, you know ... a year, one of those kinds of texts, yes, one of those ones with the accompanying photo," Urban tells Ellen DeGeneres, before clarifying: "Nice sex texting."
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