Kids and work tore Millionaire Matchmaker star Patti Stanger and her ex-fiancé Andy Friedman apart – but the two plan to remain friends because “there’s a strong bond there,” she tells PEOPLE.
“This is life. Life changes on a dime and it’s how you approach [it] with the positives versus the negatives. This could be a good thing,” says the Bravo star, 49, after announcing the couple had called off their engagement.
The source for the breakup, according to Stanger, was their different views about starting a family, along with her rigorous work schedule.
“He agreed to have kids with me but when [my] show took off, he started feeling neglected,” she says about her beau of six years. “He still wants to work it out. He would love to give me a baby now but I don’t feel he wants children. I won’t force him.”
Calling them “better friends than lovers,” Stanger says she knew the relationship was over because “it stopped feeling right. I’m a gut person. I spent a lot of time evaluating this It was a long time coming.”
The reality star hasn’t given up her hopes of having children – “I am okay with adoption [but] I won’t adopt on my own,” she says – and she’s also optimistic about finding love again.
“I feel there is another man out there for me,” she says, adding that she’s looking for a businessman and will let family and friends do the matchmaking so she can avoid attracting “fame whores.”
Adds Stanger: “I’m single and you’ve got to get back on the horse. I know that if it happens for a reason, then the next person around the corner will be the one. You have to hold on and let the universe bring it back.”
• Reporting by CHARLOTTE TRIGGS