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Transgender Teen on the Protests Against Her Using the Girls' Bathroom: 'This Is More About Hate than It Is Anything Else'

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A transgender teen whose classmates protested her this week tells PEOPLE that her peers aren’t “uncomfortable” with her using the girls’ bathroom – they’re hateful.

“With the extremes they’re taking it to, the amount of hatred and disrespect they’re spewing out, that kind of gives it away that this is more about hate than it is anything else,” Lila Perry says.

The 17-year-old says she hid in a guidance counselor’s office on Monday as about 200 students walked out of class at Hillsboro High School to express their anger at school officials, who allowed her to use the girls’ restroom and locker room. Some held signs that read “Girl’s Right’s Matter.”

Lila Perry

Perry tells PEOPLE that while she has not been directly threatened, her friends have gotten threats, both online and in school hallways.

“I think it has a lot to do with people being afraid of what they don’t understand or know much about,” Perry said. “I think a lot of it has to do with how [the students] were raised. A lot of people at my school were raised to be very bigoted.”

Perry, who came out as transgender in February, says she realized she was a girl at 13 years old.

She told CNN that school officials have been very accommodating and even offered her a private, gender-neutral restroom to use. But that wasn’t good enough. “I am a girl,” she told the network. “I shouldn’t have to be pushed away and just offed to another bathroom.”

Lila Perry

The teen, a native of tiny Hillsboro about 40 miles south of St. Louis, said she may consider leaving the school if “things start getting physical.” But she still hopes to graduate this coming spring so she can attend beauty school. She hopes to eventually undergo sex reassignment surgery.

The fight over where Perry can use the bathroom and change before gym class has gotten national attention. But, she says the battle is also going on in her own home.

Perry says things between her and her parents have been “difficult” during her journey. She noted that they asked not to be mentioned to the media and “want to be left out of everything.”

Lila Perry (second from left) with friends

However, she has found courage from her friends and one other headline-making figure: Caitlyn Jenner.

“I admire Caitlyn for coming out and dealing with all the hate,” she told PEOPLE. “I came out before I knew she was transgender but she definitely did inspire me to stand up for myself.

“I’m hoping that people will be more educated over trans issues and the hostility will decrease,” she said. “I’m never going to stop fighting for transgender rights.”

Caitlyn recently addressed the topic of locker rooms in her E! series I Am Cait. She defended her decision to apply for a golf course membership using the name Bruce: “I don’t have to worry about locker rooms and all that crap right now, which I don’t want to worry about. I’ll worry about the locker rooms later on down the line.”