It looks as though Jada Pinkett Smith received some valuable presents upon turning 42 recently: Specifically, the gifts of reflection and inspiration.
“Yesterday I turned one year older, and I reflected on where I have been and where I am now,” Smith wrote last Thursday on her personal page, which has nearly four million likes.
“What I learned about myself is this, when I was younger I was not a good problem solver, meaning I had a very difficult time dealing with problems in life. I had many addictions, of several kinds, to deal with my life issues, but today, at 42, I have my wisdom, my heart and my conscience as the only tools to overcome life’s inevitable obstacles.”
Though she did not address what types of addictions haunted her in the past, Smith, who has long battled rumors of an marriage problems and even a 2011 separation, did address her thoughts about divorce in “a letter to a dear friend” on Sunday.
“You came to see me last night to tell me that you have decided to get a divorce. Last night I only listened, but this morning I woke up with a hope for you,” Smith wrote. “For the past five years, I have been meeting with elders who have been married 25+ years to get understanding from many perspectives as to what marriage and love is all about.”
Smith continued in her post: “Almost all the couples have said that at some point in their marriage they have stumbled upon inevitably difficult moments that called for a break My hope for you is this, that you consider taking the route that some of our elders have taken in giving your marriage some space and time before the drastic decision of divorce. Answers to big questions need time to find lasting truth vs the truth of the moment. After this process the answer may be the same but you may also find that spark that could save and rekindle your marriage.”
And on Tuesday, Smith wrote powerfully about why some people stay with those who treat them badly.
“To me, the answer is simple,” Smith wrote. “They stay because they don’t believe they deserve to be treated better, and the moment one truly believes they deserve better … they do what it takes to change their circumstances which may even mean … leaving because being treated badly becomes … intolerable.”