Carol Leifer and Lori Wolf have been together 20 years. “But ‘partner’ never quite cut it for me,” Leifer tells PEOPLE. “Too law-firmy, too square-dancey.” So on Dec. 5, in front of 150 guests at L.A.’s Brentwood Country Club, Leifer made Wolf her wife.
“After almost 20 years together, it feels great to finally call Lori ‘my wife,’ ” Leifer, 59, shares. “When the ceremony was over and the waiter offered us a cocktail and I said, ‘My wife would like a glass of champagne,’ it was an epic feeling!”
Friends like Larry David, Jay Leno, Bill Maher, Jane Lynch, Paul Reiser, Garry Shandling, Henry Winkler and Timothy B. Schmit were on hand for the nuptials, planned by the couple with Yvonne Wolf Events.
“There is some caution when it involves lesbians because now it’s two women throwing a wedding,” Leifer jokes. “A lot of conflict – it’s like two guys throwing a Super Bowl party.”
But they did agree on many aspects of the big day, like including their 9-year-old son Bruno as ring bearer (“We had to explain to him that it was a bit unusual – normally, children come after the ceremony,” Leifer says) and walking down the aisle to less traditional tunes – Wolf to “All My Love” by Led Zeppelin and Leifer to “Till There Was You” by The Beatles.
The cake was also special to the couple; baker Elin Katz of Rosebud Cakes made a four-tier creation that featured renderings of the women’s four rescue dogs.
With such a happy day behind them, what are the newlyweds looking forward to now? From the sounds of it, just carrying on as they have. “After almost 20 years together,” Leifer says, “I’ve got a good feeling this will stick.”
For more on Leifer’s nuptials, pick up the Dec. 21 issue of PEOPLE, on newsstands Friday